Advice?

I was in a similar situation at one point and ended up leaving my fiance for this person. He ended up cheating on me a few times in the beginning because that's what cheaters do I guess. Not to say that cheaters can't change. I'm still with him and I can tell he really wants to make this work. He is patient with me when I'm feeling like I can't trust him and showing me his phone and anything I ask to see. I appreciate that. Other then the trust issues which are getting better we are doing ok. He's really good with my kids and they love him. He trys really hard to make me happy. I don't know what you should do in your situation however. In our situation we both left the people we were with. Like moved out and everything. If he's not willing to leave the girl he's with for you then he'll probably keep bouncing back and forth between you. Lol I'm sorry. I'm not sure if any of this was helpful.

I have been in a similar situation years ago! Trust me…. It’s not worth it! That man is full of shit and he is not leaving her for you. I agree with the comments that you loose them how you get them. Please put yourself first and remove yourself from that situation ASAP.

Sounds like he’s stringing you along. I was in a situationship off and on for a few years and learned it he wanted to he would. Eventually after I completely moved on he asked to be serious and all the things I wanted before.. but I didn’t want him anymore. Men usually come back and I advise for you to work on moving on. It’s not easy and motherhood can be lonely but you CAN and you will. You just have to be ready and realize you’re not valuing yourself with this situation. Love doesn’t make you devalue yourself such as being the other woman nor does love make you feel anything but good, whole, and considered .. which this is not. Sorry for the bluntness, I’m a Scorpio lol but hugs and you got it this girl! We’re all routing for you 🫶

What starts bad ends bad. Understand if he wanted to leave her he will, especially if he love you. I would put my foot down.

An older friend once gave me the same advice I am about to give you… “Do not let your heart convince you to do something your mind knows is wrong”.
Maybe one day he will leave her for you. We can’t tell.
However, I concur with many of the ladies who have commented before me. I wouldn’t trust him and I would cut all communication moving forward.
Can you say with any certainty that you are the only one he is seeing outside of his relationship??

Pour your time and energy into yourself and your baby for now. I know it can be lonely at times but it’s safer and healthier than the current alternative.
Finding new hobbies and distractions are what helped me move on from a situationship that was going nowhere fast.

Toxic relationship are hard to quit, it depends only from u, but u can get help from outside too, change the places u visit often, go to another market to buy things, try a new sport, go to get some fresh air when he apears. Its harder that it looks, and its difficult to see from inside, but think that mean time u will not find that person thats gonna support and be by ur side, the that u need for u and ur baby right now, he its not gonna be with u in those early mornings, u have to ask ur self and to him if he can make that little for u.

If he is not willing to leave his girlfriend for you you’re being used try and put yourself in her situation regardless of what he says about her which I’m sure probably isn’t the nicest stuff to try and make you feel less guilty she is the one who is in a relationship with him don’t be a home wrecker :/

Girl youre not serious. Grow up. Youre not stuck in no situation. Youre allowing yourself to be stuck. Just bc some idiot tells you he loves you is the reason you giving it up everytime you see him? You already know hes in a relationship with her so wat good you thinks gonna come out of this? Youre the side chick & have been this in his eyes for years. Bad enough you went & had a baby for another dude. Seems like he miss the sex with you. Thats it. Hes not gonna leave her & definitely wont marry you. Focus on your child & not getting a possible 2nd baby daddy