“Special time” after birth with your SO

I had a c section and felt pretty good at 4 weeks but still waited till 6 weeks pp to be safe. Everyone’s body is different so just whenever you feel good to go.

After baby was 1 year old 😅 hadn't wanted it since first trimester

We waited 4 weeks with my first, but hurt to much but was good at 5 weeks and had my sex drive back pretty much after that
Waited 6weeks with my second (which was 7weeks ago)
And don’t feel sexually motivated at all at the moment, but I’m pretty exhausted have one two under two.
Both where natural vaginal births, so had to wait for stitches to heal and everything

My drive is still low at 6 months PP. But we had sex at 8 weeks - had to wait 2 weeks after depo shot as i was not taking any chances of falling pregnant.

We started trying to have “special time” 8 weeks after a vaginal birth. But we gradually did it to much information but he would only put it in half way to get me use to it again so overall about 10Weeks before we started officially enjoying ourselves x

I think we did around 12 weeks, I had a c section and I just felt tender, not very sexy and we were so tired all the time hehe.

Yet to experience this but my hynobirthing educator said nothing for 6 weeks post partum as least since there’s quite a lot of healing for mum to do. She said it’s also quite common to lose your sex drive during this period and also for your partner to loose theirs as their hormones also change during this period to suppress their sex drive.

I had a really high libido during my pregnancy and from about 3 weeks PP to 3/4 months PP then it kinda dropped off

How did your Partner cope? Was he okay with it?

@incognito I think he definitely missed it, but we were both so tired and he also respected that I had absolutely no desire to do it. I think breastfeeding really made me feel like I was just in Mum mode and didn't have any other part of me available. He mentioned it a few times early on but could see it made me upset so stopped mentioning it. I wish I had more drive but I'm still so tired and still breastfeeding and only just got my period back at 14 months PP 😅🤞I thought about seeing a naturopath which I might do if things still don't feel back to normal soon :)

Completely lost my sex drive during pregnancy, we had sex maybe 5 times when I was pregnant. Waited I think 10 weeks pp and again, had no drive. Probably had sex 3 times in the first 9 months. I’m 11 months pp now and my sex drive is back in full force 😂 I was so worried it would be gone forever. Give yourself time ❤️ your bodies just been through a huge experience

Everyone will be so different. My friend didn’t even try to have sex until the baby was 6 months and then they went another 6 months before the next time.

Hubby & I did it once I had the all clear from my doctor, who honestly said to me, the best time is when you’re ready.

My advice is use LOTS OF LUBE. Like don’t stinge on the lube.

My drive went completely but I knew it was important for our relationship. I found that while I wasn’t in the mood leading up to it, once we started, and I relaxed, I got into the mood.

And honestly that’s still the case 16 months post partum. I never feel like it but once we start I get in the mood. And then there are times when I’m like nope don’t touch me.

It’s all about communication and making sure your SO is being respectful about what you need/want or don’t want.