Tantrum

Have you tried offering her comfort rather than taps?

yes. I was doing that at first but then she pushed me away resulting in almost falling out my hands. Scratching my face and hitting me. So weird to say my 9 month old is doing that lol

Leave her too it. If she's pushing you away in terms of comfort then don't give it to her. I know it sounds harsh but you need to let her deal with those big emotions. She'll stop eventually and then want her mummy.

I just don’t want to be that parent with that kid that acts out. I don’t think “punishment “ will do anything now but then I don’t, don’t wanna do it and becomes a bigger problem you know

I get she’s showing emotions and that’s fine but I just don’t want her throwing herself or thinking that it’s ok

Well she is only 9 months and it is the only way she can express her emotions. She is far too young to do anything about it discipline wise.

It can be helpful to follow this framework- validate, empathise and set boundaries- for example I can see your upset/angry, you wish you could (do whatever it is she is having a tantrum about), mummy finds it hard when she can’t do something she wants to do and then hold a boundary e.g, but playtime is over, you are allowed to be angry about that. Then just let her know you are right there beside her if she needs you. Unfortunately tantrums are an extremely normal
Part of toddler development and when they are at ‘peak’ tantrum there isn’t much you can do to stop it, except make sure everyone is safe and keep communication short and clear and keep yourself calm (if you are calm she will calm down faster)- it’s like a wave and will peak then come back down (this is when she may want cuddles from you etc). Tantrums are so tough!

The only time I break contact with my 9 month old is when she does things to me that are not safe. So when she grabs my glasses off or hits my head I immediately put her down and tell her that I can't hold her when she does XYZ because it hurts mommy. But if she asked to be picked up I will and if she does it again it's an immediate put down again until she stops that behavior.

For things like I have to take a toy away or do things that make her have big feelings i still try to say why I'm doing what I'm doing but they're literally so little and are still learning that if something is out of sight it means it's still there not magically gone. And their impulse control is at like -900 so these are just ways for them to talk to us about what they want and are feeling so while it's annoying hearing your 6th meltdown in a row over things that seem so small to them it's a really big deal.