Breast feeding mamas

My boy is 8m and I’m finding feeding on demand is getting difficult with fitting around his meals/ snacks. I’m doing BLW and been told milk comes first before 1. He’s never had a routine with BF’ing so I try and BF him before his meal but sometimes he won’t take it, then he will have a big full meal and then want boob but I’m worried that will be too much on his tummy especially in an evening. I kinda wish I could have set times he would BF. Do other breast feeding mums have this problem? Or do you have set times for BFing? Or has anyone gone from feeding on demand to set feeding times and have any tips?

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I’m breastfeeding on demand and doing BLW. I also found it quite difficult to follow the guidance of “give them milk 30-60mins before a meal time”.

We’re doing breakfast and dinner at the moment. Sometimes she won’t have milk first thing (despite me offering) but I still give her breakfast anyway. Same thing at dinner time.. sometimes she’ll have had milk a couple of hours before, and I know she won’t want any more until bed time, so I still give her dinner.

My theory is that if I’ve offered her milk and she’s not wanted any then to just carry on.

I’d just say that if they seem to have decreased their milk intake, then to reduce solids offered. I haven’t noticed that in my LO yet, and she’s on track with her weight, so haven’t felt the need to reduce solids.

Hope that helps!

I just feed him whenever. If he wants a feed 20 mins before a meal, so be it. I dont worry about it 🙂

I also don’t worry about the timings. She still feeds through the night and is putting on weight, so I’m not worried! Sometimes she feeds a lot in the day and sometimes she doesn’t!

I also just feed whenever. Because we are feeding in demand and not set times I don’t think it has to be so strict. She always normally like hers after a meal anyway tbf!

I feed whenever but normally before and after her naps, she also wakes 1-2 times at night to feed. I think she is probably getting enough milk but hard to tell really!
When I’m at work she tends to drink about 200ml and then I feed her at 7.30am, 6pm, 11pm and sometimes 3am. So I think she is probably getting enough.

Thanks guys, this is reassuring! Il just take his lead and trust he knows what he needs! I’m sure he’s like holding out on the bf because he knows a meals coming tho 😂 like today he would not have anything all afternoon then he wolfed down sausage casserole, mash and veg for his dinner and then at 615 he wanted boob!! But I was like ffffs cos his bedtime feed with his dad before he goes sleep is 730pm 🥹 he ended up having all his meal a boobie feed and his bedtime bottle all within like 2 hrs 😅

I feed on demand & do BLW however she has fallen into a schedule all by herself only very occasionally will she want it outside of the normal times. This is what an average day looks like for us (9 months old) :

Night feed 5am
Morning feed 8:30am
Breakfast Meal 9am
Nap 11-11:30ish
Afternoon feed 12pm
Lunch Meal 12:45pm
Afternoon nap 2:30-3:30pm ish
2nd Afternoon Feed 3:30pm
Dinner Meal 6pm
Night feed 7:30pm
Bed 8pm

We feed on demand and do a mix of blw and purees. I find it so hard to fit solids in sometimes because he can be a real boob monster some days. His breakfast and dinner are always around the same time everyday, but lunch is the one we struggle to time right

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

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In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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