First Haircut
My son was born with a head of hair. My partner is mixed, so when I was pregnant I was sure our baby wasn’t going to have my naturally blonde hair. However, he was born blonde haired, blue eyed and has just gotten blonder and I guess I’ve just been really proud of that. It was long and getting longer so I would brush it after his baths and wipe it out of his face while I was nursing him. I’d pet his head while he was sleeping and curl it behind his ear.
Today we went with my partner to his barber for his haircut and one of the other barbers started talking us about cutting our sons hair now so it all would grow out evenly and he was making a good case and I’d thought about it since he just turned 6 months old last week. I thought he talked about just cutting it all the same length, but by the time I realized I had misunderstood it was too late. My boys hair is all gone - the barber buzzed all of it off.
I am not really sure what I’m looking for by writing this… maybe understanding? I don’t know. I just feel so sad. Sadder than I’ve been about anything in as long as I can remember! When I look at him, I feel differently. He just had such beautiful hair and now it will never be the same. I feel so much guilt about this and the way it’s making me feel. I can’t stop crying.
Am I alone here? Has anyone felt this way after cutting their babies hair for the first time? Right now I have my partner watching him so my heart can get right. Maybe when i can nurse him again the bond will rebuild? I don’t know why his lack of hair is making me feel so detached! What is wrong with me??
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I felt the same way then my son's hair got cut at 6 months. He was born with a LOT of hair. His fine baby hair was getting so tangled. My husband and I agreed to trim it. I did such a horrible at home job so my husband attempted to fix it with clippers. We didn't realize exactly how short the clippers would trim my son's hair. And before we knew it, my son had a accidental buzz cut. I was so sad and cried for nearly a month. I didn't recognize my son and felt detached when I looked at him. Fast forward to a couple months later, his hair was growing back long again. He's 13 months now and his hair is almost shoulder length. The positive side of getting his hair cut is that it's much fuller and thicker. No more tangled baby hair. Every where we go, people just love his hair. It'll get better! 🫶🏼
thank you SO MUCH! This is so validating. I was starting to think something really was wrong with me. Ugh. You have no idea how much I needed to hear I wasn’t the only one who experienced this!
I would definitely nurse him and see if it helps. You can mourn his hair and what happened but I’m sure he just wants you too. You are already placing so much guilt upon yourself so allow some grace and compassion and just love on your baby boy the same way as before. 🫶🏻
😔That’s really awful that you experienced that; but he’s still your baby boy. His hair (or lack of it) doesn’t change that. The bond hasn’t been broken.
You sound overly attached to his hair. His hair didn’t make him your baby. Maybe you bonded with him more because he turned out to be “naturally blonde” like you but that’s a bit shallow no?
It’s one thing to be sad but you shouldn’t “feel differently” when you look at him.
And frankly it’s a little weird that you felt proud by the fact that
“he was born blonde haired, blue eyed and has just gotten blonder and I guess I’ve just been really proud of that.”
So…you’re proud that your son was born blue eyed and blond haired like you and didn’t come out mixed like his dad 👀
Just take a minute to read your words luv and sit with it for a bit. “I don’t know why his lack of hair is making me feel so detached!”
Idk maybe you felt like his hair was something you both had in common? Something that made him yours; but he’s still yours.
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