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So this something that came up before and was confronted about. my baby daddy went to go do something while I stayed in the car. He left his phone unlocked. We both have 2 phones. I’m not trying to be toxic but I had to be sure he not doing nothing shady (again…). This phone I don’t have access to . Saw an Opportunity to look so I did. He message random girls out the blue saying dating apps are shit & trying to find someone to share his life with. — like we not together with a baby that’s not even 1 yet! Another girl calling him baby & handsome! He stopped coming to bed unless he have work. I always feel like I need to get a 3rd party in for him to understand. He makes me feel so insecure about myself & more . I feel he just wish I was someone else. To find a girl that more snatched and got her own hustle
He told me not to work & take care of baby. I never trusted daycare so I obliged & took the opportunity to rest, heal, etc.. I’m a FT student to work from home. Financially he take care of everything.
Because he financially takes care of everything I’m afraid to leave. He already made it clear if he not together or I get put out he fighting for full custody & im scared cause I don’t have anything to support the baby.
I need to hear your voices cause this mama overwhelmed bad!
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Well that fact you said again kinda proves this is a recurring issue. I would say try talking to him about it and try to understand why he has the need to talk to other girls but don't take like a hostile approach try a more sympathetic and understanding point. I feel like ppl can feel the need to cheat if they feel.like something might be missing in the relationship.
At the end of the day I doubt you'll have problems with court since you were employed before and I'm pretty sure their ate programs to support and help with housing and financial aspects. But im not 1000% sure how it works but you can definitely reach out to the hospital or even like the court house to talk about it and get more information
Girl, don't let him know you know yet. Get your ducks in a row, and then one day when he's not home, you leave. Get you a job without him knowing, etc. he can't just take baby away unless he can prove You're an unfit momma. The most he can do is get 50/50
Do you have anyone you can stay with?
no
@Juliette his work schedule is so unpredictable its crazy. I'm trying to find something remote like amazon or apple call center but I haven't found anything that's not analytics nun too much
@Nicole I did do something like this In the past he made it seem like I was the bad guy saying "why am I looking for reasons to make myself upset", "privacy or the fact he don't go through mines" : I mean ofc why would he I isolated myself so I have few people I talk to on regular basis. Too much tension with change of behavior. I've just suffered in silence & hope.
That sounds frustrating. Try things like door dash, and Uber eats, instacart, and all that too. At this point, literally anything you can do without him knowing. Don't give him indication something's wrong until you at least have work.
I'm hearing there's this app you can make money from by posting reviews of different products. Another mom mentioned it and I still have to check it out myself. It's called Kale(maybe try looking into that?) I hope you can get out asap!
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