3 month old fighting naps

My little lady is 14 weeks tomorrow and I’ve noticed she seems to be fighting naps. We are not on a schedule in the day atm as 1) she started sleeping through on her own really early so I didn’t want to start scheduling her incase it disrupted the nights and 2) were out most days at baby classes and all the times are different which makes it hard to make a daily schedule! Sometimes she is woken by partners alarm but she tends to wake up naturally between 8 and 9. I feed her and get her ready for the day then she usually has a morning nap (they vary a lot in length) then every day is different but I tend to have baby groups in mornings then snoozy afternoons. I do pjs or bath between 7.30 and 8pm then keep her downstairs with me till around 9:30/10 and then last feed upstairs before bed and usually she’s asleep by 10:30pm this has been working but recently I feel like she’s fighting naps. E.g she was on her playmat and I was playing with her then she got a bit upset so I picked her up and cuddled her and offered her the boob, she had a small feed. Then (and this is where I’m struggling as she’s done it quite a few times now and did it last night before bed) she starts crying, stretching out and clawing at me and she’s so unhappy. I rock pat and shh her very calmly and then she falls asleep. I don’t think it’s wind or anything as I burp her etc and she has the little tantrum (feel bad saying that as she’s only a little baby but I’m not sure what else to describe it as!) but it comes to an abrupt end and she settles if that makes sense. She’s otherwise a happy content little thing.. any advice for how to stop her becoming so unsettled just before a sleep would be great x

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My 13 week old has been terrible sleeping the past week. When not contact napping she wakes every 30/40 min and used to be quite settled at night but has been getting up a lot more 😴. I think it’s a sleep regression and hoping it ends soon 😫 x

My nearly 13 week old has been having these little episodes of manic crying, even boob wasn't settling her as it used to before but I've started to be very aware of her wake windows (90 mins) and not overextending them, not even by 5 minutes as she gets overtired and that's what is causing these upsets. I've set a timer on my phone the moment she wakes up from a nap so that we don't go beyond her wake window time and I catch her before she starts showing sleepy cues x

I couldn’t write this better myself!
I have no idea what’s going on but my little one is the same (13 weeks) she just starts crying out of no where and also keeps waking from her naps crying then I have to rock her and she goes back to sleep, but she won’t nap for longer than 15-30 minutes it’s exhausting x

Same here. 14 weeks tomorrow. Spend longer getting him to nap than he does napping and waking up more frequently in the night. Assume it’s the start of the 4 month regression. I’m fed up already

I think babies have sleep regression around 3 months mark as my little girl is same she sleeps over night fine and will self sooth herself but in the day she cries till she falls asleep as she won’t settle but then when she does sleep it’s for 30-40 mins of that sometimes. She has two naps today for 10 mins each time and then wakes up laughing at me 😂

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