I guess there are different types of parents

I have struggled as a first time mom because I feel like a lot of my friends (childless) don’t understand that it’s not easy for me to go do things… like going to festivals or going over to friends houses etc etc. I know many people DO these things with small children… but it’s just NOT worth it to me. My kid will NOT sleep while out and it just stresses me outtt. I’d rather just go somewhere for a few hours and then come back home so that my child can nap and not get crazy. I would like to go do more things but I just feel like at this point in my life this is where my husband and I are at… of course if there is a special occasion or something we will push naps or bedtime etc. but I’m not going to do that everyday… It’s just not for me. We have been on several trips with our child etc… but I make sure we get our naps in so it’s not like it used to be of course… I know everyone is different but sometimes I wonder if I am the crazy one?

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Honestly I feel the same way, so don’t beet yourself up. If this feels right for you then that is exactly the way it should be

I'm the same way, too. I will go as far as planning things for after my son's 1st nap so it won't be so bad if he misses his 2nd nap. Don't feel crazy or awful for doing what works for you. We are all doing the best we can. This chapter in life won't last forever.

with my first family would plan things right when he was supposed to nap and so id lie to myself saying i can just get him to nap there… now with baby #3 i will head home an hour before nap time or wait until after nap time before i go anywhere.

Thank you all so much. I do the same thing. We usually try to do things after the first nap so I know we at least get one nap in and we can either stretch it or skip it depending on how my 1 year old is doing or how far we are etc. It’s just hard when other people don’t understand and I assume they think I’m crazy or antisocial or something. I always say to anyone they are more that welcome to come to my house lol but that doesn’t seem to happen often and then I’m left feeling like I have no friends. I know this chapter will pass… we just found out we’re expecting again so I’m sure it will be a long time until we’re able to really do things again. I just feel like this is one of the sacrifices I have made by having children. My needs don’t come before theirs.

Same here. We always wait until after his first nap and sometimes after the second nap. I can’t deal with nap skipping because then he’s cranky and wakes up at night. Not worth it to me either..

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