Baby daddy hasn’t met our daughter

Long post!! Just need advice, all of this adds context to my question at the end Okay so my baby is now 3 months old and the father never reached out during the pregnancy or after she was born to see how she was or to meet her and I’m not sure what to do because I feel so morally conflicted. For context I started seeing my BD in November last year and things seemed to go really well (or so I thought, I didn’t know anything about love bombing or narcissistic behaviours, I had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship that I’d had throughout high school and being 23 I thought I should’ve known better but I didn’t) There were definitely red flags that I stupidly ignored, especially because we became official so quick and he cheated on me with his previous BM (not sure if I could call it that because we weren’t together long) I found out because she told me, she thought I was just a fling he had and felt awful because he’d cheated on her in the past WHILE she was pregnant with their daughter who ,when I met him, was about 4months old, he was also playing dad to his 4 year old step son. After I told him I was pregnant in January, he said I needed to abort the child as he couldn’t have another baby at the time and it would be too hard to have a baby to 2 different people, that special events and holidays would be difficult for him and he would feel depressed, that if his BM knew she’d never let her stepson near him again (basically it wasn’t about the kids it was about him only and how he would feel 🙄) He ghosted when I said I wasn’t going to terminate, I couldn’t bring myself to do it after hearing her heartbeat. I found out about the gender at 13 weeks but decided to keep it to myself and share it when he asked, however a friend of mine bumped into him and tried to have a man to man chat, told BD that he needs to step up better for his kids and for his new daughter, BDs response (in these exact words) was that he “already got a daughter, she knew I didn’t want kids so this whole thing is on her” at the time that absolutely broke me, pregnancy hormones made it a thousand times worse and to top it off, I saw him at the supermarket a few days later, with what I think was his BM and step son, he saw me and disappeared so quick ( I wouldn’t have confronted him, I was too shocked just seeing him there and the rage from his previous comment made me freeze) so I never bothered to reach out after she was born because I was just so hurt for her. I’m not sure about what I’m looking for here, I found out that he has a new and very very recent relationship (they already made it official) however he did reach out to me in October, did not ask once about the baby, his conversation started off with “hey how u been? xx” and “what u been doing? x” like wtf dude 🙄🙄🙄 how the hell do you think?? I think he was hoping to get back together or be his meal ticket again (he’s been in and out of work and had to move in with his Uncle and aunt) I didn’t get a chance to ask him if he was gonna ask about his daughter, it may have been my fault as at the time his BM and I were talking and I thought that she’d told him to contact me, so I asked him if that was the case and he blew up then blocked me (he’d already blocked me from his new FB account thinking I didn’t know it existed and started messaging me from his old account, I think he may have been with this new girl and didn’t want her to find out that he was talking to me) I’m pretty sure his family know but none of them have reached out like they did with his first daughter and now I’m at a loss, do I message them as ask if they want to be apart of her life? Should I try and contact BD for our daughter? She’s the most beautiful thing in the word and I hate that he’s discarded her before even knowing her 😔 *There’s a lot more that he’s done that I’ve found out about but this is long enough*