is it okay to cry in front of my baby?

I doubt there is a mom out there that hasn't cried in front of baby at sone point. I feel the yelling is worse for baby than the tears. They feel what we are a lot of times, but tension and anger seem to get them the most.

i agree, i get so frustrated with the way they talk to me in front of her sometimes , i try my best to not react and i always stand up for myself.

I have cried in front of my 3 year old and baby and its ok we are all humans. Trust me, it will not hurt the baby.

I was always told to calm down because baby’s feel your emotions and will get upset too but I don’t care we are aloud feelings we have a right to cry and be upset don’t listen to them you are allowed!

If I feel like I’m freaking out and crying hard I’ll go on a walk, but if I’m just a little emotional and tears are running I’ll actually cuddle my baby and take deep breaths

If it helps you can always get into the habit of explaining to her why you’re crying so that she knows she doesn’t need to feel distressed at all! It seems to help my toddler quite a bit even just to say that I’m sad because she always gets so worried that I’m hurt

I was baby sitting my niece one time who would have been just over one at the time. I ended up crying, can’t remember why haha, and she crawled over to me and put her hand on my cheek, it was the sweetest thing. I think it’s fine for children to witness emotions and it helps them realise it’s normal and honestly it’s worse for you if you keep it in.

This was older children but I’m a teacher and I received news whilst my class were at a different lesson that my grandfather had passed. My head teacher offered me to leave straight away but all I had left that day was collecting them from the lesson and dismissal. They saw that I had been crying (age 6-7) and asked why, I was honest with them and we had a talk about how emotions are part of life and it’s okay if we’re sad sometimes and how we can deal with sadness. They all gave me a big group hug and then I sent them on home. The parents the next day I was in were so sweet and they even gave me a card and flowers. Sending love 🩵🩵🩵

I personally think it's healthy to cry in front of the kids in our lives. It shows that even adults have big feelings they can't control. If we normalize big feelings to our little ones then when they feel the big feelings it won't be as scary. My godson has seen me cry and I explained why. "Auntie Kiki is having some really big feelings right now and crying it out makes me feel better. You know how sometimes you cry when you're frustrated? I do too."

I know it’s not the same but I am in chronic pain 24/7 from wake up to sleep and when I push myself and make the pain worse I cry in front of my son. It is fine. Actually I believe it’s worse for kids to see people walk away when emotional all the time , as being emotional in front of them can help them realise a decent emotional response

I will admit that I think there is limits to it as crying 24/7 around a baby is stressful to them but crying every once in awhile isn’t that bad and is probably beneficial as your LO we learn from it that it’s okay to cry, it’s okay to not be okay and it’s okay to need people around when you are upset however moving away to cry sometimes is okay too as it will show that it’s also okay to cry and need space for a little bit

I'm so sorry for your loss and that your mother isn't allowing you to have your feelings. Personally I think she is damaging your child more by suggesting feelings should be hidden. It is absolutely ok to cry Infront of your baby, toddler, child. When she's older and you get upset, you can tell her "mummy's sad because she wishes your daddy was here" that is actually healthy!
As hard as you may be finding things right now, it may be best for you to find alternative arrangements away from your mum. Or simply tell her straight, that it's ok for you to have emotions and it's ok for baby to have emotions but it's not ok to tell Infront of her!

the biggest thing you mom could do to help if she feels the crying is bad for baby, is ask if she could help by holding her. Maybe the best thing to alleviate stress from all three of you ladies is to ask her to hold baby when you are upset. I don't think you are doing anything wrong in the first place, but this may help dispel sone of your mom's frustration. Not sure if she'd be open to that, but it may be worth trying.

thank you everyone. peace & love 💕