Relationship after cheating
a few years ago my boyfriend cheated on me while i was pregnant and got someone else pregnant. we worked out our differences some how and we are still together. I want our relationship to work so badly. Believe it or not, he is a great man, he takes care of us, he puts effort into our relationship, we include God in our relationship etc. He is just overall the man i’ve always wanted, other than when he did that. Over the years, it hasn’t gotten any easier for me. I still think about what he did to me everyday. There hasn’t been one day I haven’t thought about the way he made me feel and how him doing that changed every aspect of my life. I still cry about it at least every week. I genuinely don’t believe that pain will ever go away. we’ve gone to therapy, we talk about it, we’re very open to each other about everything in our relationship but there’s no way I can just get over it or accept it. At this point I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to leave him (I have before twice over this) but I don’t see how we can be in a healthy relationship with this always being on my mind.
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My ex husband cheated on me too, twice. Tried to forgive him and blend it out. Worked for two weeks and then it clicked in my head that I’m worth more than that. I divorced happily. I did hurt but never felt any better
god that sounds so horrible. Isn’t it enough for them to cheat? why didn’t they put a condom on 😭😭😭
Yes she kept the child and our children are 1 months apart which makes it so much worse. the disgust i felt towards him honestly went away maybe like 6 months ago. but it still comes back some times. I think about that all the time. when you said “i’m sure I could probably have moved past the cheating more easily.” The little girl comes over every other weekend and that’s extremely hard for me. Like cheating, we can figure out and be done with it but the fact that I have to see the child so often really makes me upset. It’s not like i’m gonna just say you can’t see your child because who am I to demand something like that. But every family vacation, every holiday, every important event. It’s just too much sometimes. We still have 2 kids of our own that I want to make memories with. I even settled with getting married at the courthouse because I don’t want her in my wedding. It’s not me trying be rude but it’s MY life. My big moments I always dreamed of ruined because of it.
That’s the thing like I don’t want to leave him, I’ve done it before and we were still able to work it out. I just question sometimes is all the pain worth it🤦🏾♀️
my boyfriend told me he didn’t think he could get someone pregnant because he was finishing in me for 4 years prior & I wasn’t on birth control…. so he didn’t use one.😐
I think you have don’t all you can. I don’t think it will get any better.
You deserve to be happy period the end. Not happy but… I cry once a week and every big important moment of my life has been altered as a result….
That’s not okay and nobody. NOBODY should expect you to put up with having the child of his affair around. That’s a big ask.
I get completely how you feel, and it’s you’re life. Please don’t take this the wrong way. But you don’t need to keep putting yourself through this. I couldn’t handle something like this personally but you need to leave that man. You deserve so much better. He didn’t love you in that moment. It won’t change. I’ve been cheated on so many time in the past but not as extreme as you’re going through because my ex was infertile and couldn’t get girls pregnant but definitely gave me clap. Because he didn’t love me or care for me. He fucked a nasty drug addict. Then tried blaming me for it 😂😂 girl protect yourself please I’m not here to tell you what to do. But I’m just saying from my experiences, this isn’t love.
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