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April 2023 Babies 🇺🇸

Co parenting needing vent

My daughter is 8 1/2 months and I’m literally like struggling on how to be a bigger person especially for my child. My daughter and I live in different situations with her father. Her father lives his own home and I am with my daughter 24 seven her father is on disability for a work injury a couple years back, and we had found out that she’s gonna be getting money from him that he owes so his mom said if I can give that money to help pay their mortgage for his house is it wrong for me to go ahead and give it or is it stupid? I’ve tried so hard to be the bigger person in this coparenting situation he only comes two hours with to see his child Barely does anything to help while he’s here if I decide to lay down to try to sleep, it’s impossible when I discussed about how he’s going to be having his money taken to pay back for his child and his response was, that’s my money you’re taken from me, but I’ve given my whole life up I could’ve graduated medical school, but I couldn’t I was so sick in the beginning, my pregnancy, especially doing it from all my own, is it even wrong to think about considering full custody options and legal? He complains how I don’t make him a part of anything but I’ve tried numerous accounts to make him a part of appointments situations but since we live in different homes and his phone is only on at certain times. It is definitely hard, it’s emotionally hard and it’s a toll on my body and sometimes I don’t know what to do he still shares a house with his ex because that’s what they bought a couple years ago and his mom felt like I needed to give half that money which is a good chunk to pay for their mortgage and I felt like that was really wrong because I’ve supported my daughter completely on my own since the day she was born, and before she was born