Baby sleep

My little one is 8 weeks old and is nocturnal. Help!
He is in deep sleep during the day and only wakes to eat then asleep again. Then awake every hour at night.
I've tried to keep him awake during the day by undressing him etc but it doesn't work!

I've read other posts by people saying their little ones are in routines and only wake every 4 to 5 hours at night and it makes me feel like such a failure as my little one is totally unpredicted.
Any help appreciated xx

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If it makes you feel any better, my little one fed a whole bottle, breastfed, was changed and is now playing on her playmate at 3AM bc I gave up.

She sleeps 4 hour stretches sometimes during the day, her 3 hour sleeps are amazing during the day but during the night? We’re usually up.
She’s 6 weeks old and I honestly gave up.

Don’t beat yourself up. Just soldier it out, hopefully they’ll adjust when they’re a little older.

But do try to introduce a bath or a wipe down at the time you want baby to go to sleep. Maybe it’ll help? Some sort of attempt of a routine.

We do it but she still plays at this time 😅

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Babies are often born with day and night confusion. Make sure everything in the day is bright and have lights on and lots of sound. It’s good for him to have his naps by a window if possible. And get out for walks in the pram.
Then in the evening make sure everything is dark/dimly lit. Any interactions through the night (feeds/nappy change) should be done in silence and with as little light as possible.

He’ll get there eventually - don’t worry about routines and what other people are doing, babies do what they want to do.

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That’s exactly how my baby was she’d sleep all day then once 7pm hit she cried and cried all night I barely slept nothing worked lol once she turned like 3 months things got way better

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6-9 weeks is THEE HARDEST!!!! They are coming more alive but also still very newborn. Hang in there momma!

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Don’t beat yourself up I’m not in a routine either my baby sleeps quite a bit in the day to don’t worry it will All work out

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I'm the exact same boat. My LO just won't sleep and I'm up with him at the moment 😅

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My LO was the exact same, he would not sleep all night and I was exhausted. I’ve only started doing this 3 nights ago but it seems to be helping. But on a night when you’re ready to get them down for the night. Try get them in a warm bath then take them into a dark room, with a night light and some white noise. I get his nappy on and then give him a little massage and get him clothed. ( I’ve noticed this gets him relaxed and sleepy even if he’s been sleeping all afternoon and only waking for his bottle) I then get in bed read him a book and feed him his bottle and he falls asleep towards the end of that. Once I know he’s completely out I then put him down and he tends to wake up every 3-4 hours. Hopefully this may help a little bit.🙂

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Girl my boy was the same! He is 8 weeks now and is awake most of the day.. start getting your little one on a night time routine that’s what helped me… my son will have a nap at 11 til 1 then be awake til 5 sleep for an hour then be back down for the night at half 7 his bedtime routine starts at half 6 xx

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