Did anyone find becoming a mum massively overwhelming?

Although my baby is nearly 11 months old I feel like I’m still coming to terms with the whole motherhood thing but not for the reasons obvious reasons. I took to the ‘practical’ side very easily such as caring for my baby and getting to know them etc and found I was a pretty ‘natural’ mum. Not really sure how to put it in words but I found the whole change to your life/way people approach you and your mind constantly focusing on your baby a huge change to adapt to.

I also love my baby more than life but can honestly say the first 2/3 weeks I was purely in survival mode as it was a huge shock to the system so didn’t get that instant love at first sight. Not really sure if I’m explaining myself here or what I’m expecting from sharing this except maybe to know I’m not alone.

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Yeah, I agree with everything you’ve mentioned!
It’s been a massive change to my life and even now I still miss my freedom as I was always popping in and out of the house whether it was just to B&M or Tesco! But now I really have to psych myself up if we’re going anywhere as it can sometimes take a couple of hours to even get out the house!
The first month of being a mum I felt I had no connection to her and she was just getting in the way of my life (how horrible is that!!) but the love & bond just grew stronger as the weeks went on.
100% the hardest part for me is the adaption to my lifestyle. X

I still struggle everyday with how much life has changed and how much you lose your independence! I found that harder than looking after the baby

I find being a mum really hard. I've never felt maternal at all and I don't feel very natural at it. I absolutely adore her and spending time with her but I think I find the mental load of remembering everything and being the main care giver on top of the house bits, life admin hard. I do everything on my own apart from bath time which my partner gets home for just in time after work. He wouldn't have a clue what she needs and what times etc and that I find difficult. I'm going back to work in a month and I'm hoping that I will find myself a bit more which will help even though it will be 10 times harder trying to remember and organise everything on top of work! It's definitely the life change. You aren't the only one x

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