Stay at home dad

i get both sides, being the SAHM myself, i feel like i dont get a minute. ever where as my partner finishes work and can have a relaxing shit, play a game, scroll on his phone. my ‘work day’ with baby carries on until bedtime and then sometimes through the night, id love if my partner came home and said ill take over baby while you play some games or what ever it very rarely happens though

I do take the baby when I get home I do all the house work and do all the feedings and changes at night. So I am full time work and then full time momma when I get home cause I know he’s been with the baby all day.

You’re not wrong. Just tell him..” doing it by yourself isn’t easy. But you do have a job just like i do. It feels like you should be able to get more done bc you’re at home but you’re tending to a whole human being who can’t do anything. Come up with a schedule and try to stick to it. That way you know how much time you have “

if thats the case you need to speak up to him! its one thing if hes doing the nights and housework too like i do, but if youre doing that on top of working thats completely not acceptable

Thank you just wanted to make sure I wasn’t in the wrong

I don't know...I feel like my husband is out of the house all day with his full time job, and I'm at home during the day with our toddler with my full time job parenting (SAHM). When he gets home he takes our little man and gives me time, and we sort of split things in the evening because we realize that we are both equally working during the day. And any of the outside jobs I've ever had in my entire life have never been as hard and draining as taking care of a little human. Of course I love my child very much and so grateful I get to be with him, but whew, the breaks for some down time/me time are so needed for my mental health and to keep going each day. I'm very grateful my husband comes home from work and helps me and gives me time to do what I need for myself 💕🙏🏽 It's not video games in my case but it's whatever I need...studying, a bath, a nap, whatever. We also share household responsibilities such as cleaning and cooking.

My husband and I switched roles; I work, he stays home. I was home for the first few years and it was overwhelming. I’d go stay at my family house time to time to get away from home and they also live about an hour away. My husband now stays home with our 4 year old and I don’t think he quite complains about it . He does play video games all day and watch tv if he’s not playing video games. I don’t mind it at all as the house is clean, dishes are done. When it’s not done, we or all of us tackle it down together. We’re trying for baby #2, and I’m not sure if I’ll go back to staying home or what but I’m sure we both will get through it together. My husband know what it’s like when I stayed home so when I was tired all the time, he now knows it too . My husband at first didn’t understand what it was like being a stay home parent but he now does and I now know what it’s like working and having the responsibility for everything.

Being a Stay at home parent is still a job it doesn’t mean you get to sit around and watch tv, play video games, relax. Its not a forever day off of work that you get to sit around and do nothing. It’s a job. You clean the house, play with baby, take them out to occupy them, make meals etc. yes I do sit down and scroll on my phone but not all day. And most of what I do I do while holding my LO. Vacuum while holding her, cook dinner while holding her, put away laundry while holding her.

I would say just make him work he clearly cant watch the baby, and honestly baby needs her moma this small, better you to stay home and he to work so much better trust me

it sure has me rethinking it lol

This is why I didn’t let my husband be a stay home dad. He has no self control for video games and my baby needs someone to stimulate and tend to him not only when he’s crying. So I’m making him work to pay for daycare. It’s almost even, but not for ever. Daycare gets cheaper over time and he feels responsible for his home and his baby and also get him off the computer :)