AITA for this?

I was talking to stepmum on babies dads side as baby is overdue by a few days and everyone getting impatient except me,
I mentioned if and when I do go into labour I want to keep it in the down low because with my first I was getting texts and calls for updates and some even calling hospital to find out what's going on and I don't want a repeat. She got very offended and said they where the grandparents and I can't just keep them in the down low and they should know what's happening.
I haven't even mentioned my induction date as she is a gossip and would struggle to keep it to herself or off Facebook.
Is it so bad I just want peace if I go into labour as contacting people will be the last thing on my mind?
She's also wanting to visit as soon as possible and gets upset when I say I wouldn't want visitors right away, the only visitor I want right away is my other child to see their sibling without other people hovering. Just a bit stressed at it all feeling like I'm doing something wrong.

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She's not respecting your boundaries and she's only thinking about herself. Yes she's excited and she's allowed to be but this is not her baby. You do you and don't feel guilty about it

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Thank you both,
I will add this is the first grand baby for dad's side, my other child has a different father. So I get their excitement but I have a high risk pregnancy and just wanting to not worry people trying to contact and constantly ask if they are here yet

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