Bladder incontinent

I’m 3 months postpartum and I still cannot hold my bladder. I’m wearing depends 😳 all day and night. Anyone else dealing with this? I feel like no one is talking about these kind of issues and I’d love to find some support with women who understand.

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Do kegel exercise search in youtube, hope it helps

Maybe it’s just
Normal
Am a first time mom
Of twins they are now 2 yrs old and 3
Months. I am diabetic so i would still do it a lot coz i drink too much. But on days am laughing hard, cough or sneeze it just leaks :-)

Lots of women just assume this is normal, and it doesn't help that the healthcare field has only started acknowledging it in recent years. It's actually NOT normal (just very common), and you have options. It won't be gone at 3 months postpartum, just like it won't be gone at 3 years (like me). It can get mildly better, sure. But until you address the actual cause, it's here to stay.

You need a pelvic floor rehabilitation program. NOT the ones at a physical therapy center by some dude with a physical therapy degree treating general things. I'm talking a program run by your local hospital or clinic specifically designed for women. They'll find out if your issue is mild and only related to pelvic floor weakness, or if there's a bigger issue such as a bladder/uterus prolapse, or a fissure somewhere. Some OB's can find this in a pelvic exam but it's often missed. In mild cases kegels and mild exercise is enough, but in worse cases surgery is an option. These programs usually require a referral from your OB.

https://www.conwaymedicalcenter.com/services/rehabilitation-services/womens-health-physical-therapy/

This is a place near you. I'm over in West Columbia, so I'm not actually familiar with it. One big concern is making sure your insurance will cover it. Most types of physical therapy are not covered, but since this technically affects women's ability to navigate daily life, I thiiiiiiink insurances have started covering it. Double check for sure though.

Personally, I'm currently pregnant so I won't be starting therapy until after I have my baby. I never had the time to address my issue because I was juggling too much and didn't have childcare. Hopefully it will help us both ☺️

I bought underwear, they are not depends, for the fact that I just sneeze and I wet my pants.

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When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

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