Everyone posting incognito…?

I totally get the point of posting incognito for something very very overly personal, but does it seem to anyone else like people on this app take it to the next level but posting like, 75% of all posts incognito? I mean, we’re already hiding behind an app. People don’t know our last names. Sometimes they don’t even know our real first names. People aren’t gonna be any less mean or hurt your feelings any less if you’re incognito. Thoughts? Am I alone in feeling this way?

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To be fair, when someone clicks on your profile, it shows what you've posted recently. Maybe they are embarrassed about having to ask something or just don't want potential matches in their area judging them before they have a chance to connect? Ultimately, I think it serves a purpose even if it can be abused at times 🤷‍♀️

Some people are private and just generally want to be here for advice and nothing more which I respect. Only thing I don't agree with is people hiding behind incognito, starting arguments or just being damn right disrespectful, or hurtful to ladies who are just asking for help which I've seen happen a few times on here unfortunately. X

definitely agreed. Just think people overuse it.

It’s just that when I start seeing more incog posts than posts with names, it feels like they should just go on Reddit for moms lol

🤣

When I’m speaking about my family and my personal life and struggles and it’s a more serious matter I post incognito but just a random
Post I don’t. I hate the overuse of that option

I do it sometimes because my sister in law is on this app and could be in some groups and some things I don't need my whole family knowing about..

You can post incognito but can you comment that way too?

@Kate yeah as soon as you post incognito you automatically comment that way it doesn't give you the option.

Posting that way gives them courage because there is already shame or embarrassment on any of the questions or concerns they have

It is quite secretive, hey.

yeahhh I if you start to see people you know IRL on here some posts would be better incognito. But I’m not saying it’s a bad option…it’s actually extremely useful and wonderful. Just not when the majority of posts are incognito. Makes me wonder what the point in having a profile on here even is. Everyone should just be incognito with no profile. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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