No kissing baby rule

Hey! I went down the route of no kissing him at the moment as lots of bugs going around, which has seemed to work for us. Hope that helps

My little one is only a week old so I don’t have much experience with visitors yet but when all the family came to visit us in the hospital I send three rules to everyone. 1) must mask up 2) no perfume or perfumed lotion 3) no kissing the baby

No one has held the baby yet so there was not really a chance for kissing to happen but I will be saying these rules the next time they visit us at home.

If they question the kissing part share that the human mouth holds a lot of bacteria and baby’s immune system is nonexistent.

Everyone was so excited to see baby that no one really questioned our few rules.

My first baby was born in October so it was really scary as a first time mom to be in the middle of “cough and cold season” and I would have a hard time but what always seemed to work is to remind them that the baby isn’t able to fight germs like we can and that the baby isn’t going anywhere and will love kisses in the coming years!
I would also keep baby close and if someone was holding him I would stare them down and remind them semi nicely that they need to give baby space if they started “kissing the back of his head”
Another thing I had to learn was that they should not be kissing baby hands either!! Some of the little ladies wanted to be funny (slick) and kiss his hands and I would remind them that he puts his hands directly into his mouth so that’s even worse lol I think I told my 85 year old grandmother that she could kiss his baby feet but that’s only because she’s that old.

My fiancée parents came here for the holidays to visit , I told them that they have traveled and everything and his mom had sore throat and coughing a bit and I’ve said sorry no kissing at all, his father didn’t went close (face to face) to my baby girl because he said he started to feel like he will have a cold but his mom… every time I’ve left the room I’ve heard her kissing her smoochies , I even cried and I’m not a drama queen and I’ve couldn’t wait for them to leave because of her … so I understand you completely but is so hard to make people understand and even closer friends kissed her hands many times and I was there without them seeing cleaning her hands because you don’t kiss baby face and you kiss hand first thing baby puts hands in her mouth…. It’s kind of delicate subject sometimes but who wants to understand they will if not goodbye .

I haven’t reached this stage yet but I personally might consider no visitors until until a certain milestone, a big ole sign at the door/upon entering the home of your rules and the reasons as to why, personalized shirts for baby and you “kissing baby is not permitted at this time thank you, management” something a lil dramatic and DRASTIC. Babies are so cute and loved so I get it but people need to respect your boundaries and decisions as the parent. If Polite and gentle Reminders prior to visits and right before visits begin of your rules and what is expected don’t work then I’d take the dramatic route

I get you! I think it’s hard! I had this rule in the beginning but now everybody seems to forget about it (he’s 5 months old) initially I just said when they came to the house, “I put a clean towel in the bathroom for you” implying “wash your hands”, and “I’m worried he gets cold and flu everybody is sick around us, is so easy to catch it” implying, “don’t kiss him”.
It seemed to work in the beginning but he was so tiny and people were actually afraid, but now, that he’s responsive and he smiles at everybody.. they all want to kiss him 😭 specially parents and in-laws! If you find a way, let me know 😅

My daughter was born in a Covid surge on December 29th ie right after everyone gets Covid from seeing their family. Hospitals wouldn’t even allow visitors but my husband. We made anyone who wanted to see the baby before month 3 wear a mask and be vaccinated- talk about boundaries! This is the start to a long road of boundaries with your families ladies, get comfortable doing what is best for your family and get your damn husbands on board. You both have to be a united a front or sorry but you’re the bitchy wife or bitchy mom. I so often make my husband be the bearer of bad news and it’s helps so much not make me the bad guy and our family united. Tell them, the first three months especially and honestly babies aren’t even fully vaccinated until 6 months that you do not want kissing and these are your wishes to keep him/her safe. Anyone who puts up a fight should look in the mirror. Lean in on medical/doctor advice and be ready for them to not be okay with it and BE OKAY with that

I never had anyone kiss my daughter when she was under 1. I never had to say anything about it, everyone washed their hands without asking and sick people just didn't come on their own. I had a very different experience I guess.

very lol what she’s saying is something a lot of people have to deal with unfortunately. The older generation is SO TOUCHY. I’ve had strangers try to get in my newborns face during Covid….

I honestly had everyone wear a mask around baby or when holding him! (Also had to sanitize their hands)

(We live in a different state so most people traveled to visit)

The rule was they would have to wear a mask around baby or when holding him.

I would literally hand them the mask when they asked for baby.

Which ultimately implys - no kissing lol

No one really ever got offended!

But, if they had, I honestly wouldn’t mind. My number 1 priority is my babies health!

I’d rather have an offended friend/relative than a sick newborn

I'm putting something like this on my registry and going to have it on the car seat and baby carrier.

No Kissing Sign: https://a.co/d/4m2jXrX

I had grandparents and great grandparents try to kiss my 8 month old after months of saying do not kiss my child and I back up with her and say don’t kiss her and my aunt said she was gonna kiss her in the spring and guess who is no longer allowed to see my daughter 🥰 I don’t give a fuck if my child is 4 years old or 15 years old DO NOT KISS MY CHILD PERIOD

Tell them exactly that. Be forward about it. It’s your baby and you don’t have to feel bad about it. If they have a problem with it then they don’t want to be around baby that bad

Glad you brought this up, I hadn’t thought of it. That’s so gross.

I guess set stern boundaries

I plan to be straight up like don’t put your face or hot breath on/near my baby’s face. I don’t care if I hurt feelings.

I just tell people we don’t get that close to baby’s face. The only people I let kiss my baby is direct household so parents and one set of grandparents. And only head or cheeks.

I plan for only me and baby’s dad to be able to have our faces close to baby’s face. At least until she gets older. Dad will also get that whooping cough vaccine too before baby’s born

yeah I understand that. The set of grandparents I let kiss my baby. Routinely get all vaccines for baby including the whooping cough. Plus won’t go near my son if they sneezed that day (very cautious). And my son is at their house every other day as they are my entire support system so it follows under the rules of direct household.