Partner thinks I’m worthless

My partner thinks my worth is only equal to money I bring into the house. I’m taking 11 months of maternity leave so my last 2 months is unpaid, I’ve put money away to pay myself for those two months to cover my share of the bills.
However because I won’t be actually getting paid my partner acts like I’m a waste of space and has banned me from spending money on anything, even clothes for my son.
He’s trying to force me to use my remaining KIT days but returning to work is already making me feel so anxious, I have no childcare options and I want to make the most of my time with my little boy.
Sometimes I wish I just didn’t exist, the only thing that gets me through is my little boys smile 😢

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Well that sounds very controlling. I hope you can get out of this situation and know that not all men are like this. You do not deserve to be treated like this either. You are not worthless!!!! Have you had any conversations with him about how he's making you feel? 'cause if he's not prepared to fix up and work at the relationship and control your life then he isn't the right man for you! He's tearing you down and that is not something you should stand for x

I'm sorry but this is big red flags right here. There is clear control here mentally by making you feel like a waste of space and by telling you what you can and can't spend money on. Also trying to force you to do KIT days when you don't want to. I'm sorry but this is not okay! A few of these behaviours fall under Coercive Control! I've been in a similar situation and I can tell you it only gets worse!

If your partner is making feel like this then I'd say its time to move on
and create a life for you and your son without him. You deserve so much better than this. I really hope you know your doing an amazing job as a mummy and I'm sure your a wonderful person x

I’m
Going to message you for advise please X

That’s awful my partner pays for everything and says I can have as much time as I want off obviously we are lucky he is self employed.

He would never force me to try go to work or make me feel worthless.

Can you try talk to him about it? If not you’d be better off on your own ok benefits xx

* on benefits x

Don’t doubt yourself and your worth, very normal to want to be with your baby during may leave.
He sounds like a scumbag!
He should be providing for you as much as he can, not stressing you out! It is his baby too 😵‍💫

Oh my love, you are so far from worthless! You are an amazing mama who grew a whole human and who is raising that human daily.

Your partner saying things like that is not ok, like others have said, he sounds controlling.

I was also in a past relationship that was controlling where (my now ex) husband would tell me similar things. We went out separate ways and my daughters have a very strained relationship with him now they are teens as he tries to control them too.

The reason I’m saying this is to say that as long as you have your son, you will find a way to be happy - with or without your partner. There will be ups and downs daily and it’s tough but YOU are amazing, don’t let him dull your sparkle 💙

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