Contact naps

Does anyone have any advice on how to stop contact naps? Unless my 6mo falls asleep in the pram or car she won’t go to sleep for naps unless held. If she falls asleep on someone, she will also wake up and cause a riot if we try and lay her down in her cot.
At night she will happily be put in her cot awake and fall asleep herself, seems to just be the naps we are having the issue with.

Any advice is greatly appreciated:)

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I don't have any advice I'm afraid but I'm having the exact same issue with my boy! My days consist of me being nap trapped! Have you tried rocking baby in a dark room with some relaxing music maybe?

I put some nice calming night time baby music on, sit on my bed while my son is in his cot so he knows I'm there and I just let him fall asleep by himself, it can take between 5 minutes to about 20 minutes

I have tried in a dark room, bought black out blinds and tried sound machine and different playlists but nothing seems to work. I like to get housework done but unless someone is home or visiting I’m nap trapped!

I will keep trying with this, seems to upset her being put in the cot during the day for some reason 😢

My whole day goes like this.

In exactly the same boat at 7 months, it is so claustrophobic. Tried everything to no avail

Were the same, desperately trying to move away from contact naps. If I put her down she wakes and start crying yet at night we put her down awake and she goes to sleep all night.
For the past week we've been doing thr first nap of the day as a cot nap as I read that nap is the one theyre the most sleepy for. So I'm leaving it at least 2 hours from her wake so she's well into her wake window, as soon as she shows tired cues I put her back on her sleeping back and replicate night settings, curtains closed and white noise. I'll rock her to sleep (she fights me!) And then when asleep il hold her for 5 more minutes and then very careful as if I'm diffusing a bomb put her down asleep haha. Sometimes she goes straight down sometimes she wakes, if she wakes I get her back up and start again. Honestly some mornings I'm at it for 45 minutes but I'm just trying to build the routine and I know it will pay off in thr end. This morning she went down in no time and now I get breakfast without watching miss Rachel 😂

I put myLO in his cot and pt his bum on occasion but he jsut plays n then gets tired n drifts off with his music & lights .. we’re on week 2 of no contact naps x

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