Transition from contact nap to cot nap

Hello!
Has anyone successfully managed to transition from a contact nap baby to 1 nap in their cot/bassinet/next to me?
My LO sleeps well at night, happy to be put down and settles herself if she stirs unless she's wet or hungry.
Day times.... Not so much. She will only sleep on me, in a sling or in the car. I love the cuddles and have leant into alllll the naps but am keen to maybe get one nap a day with her in her cot. It'll free up some time for me but also aware of trying to get her used to it before the 4 month sleep regression.
Has anyone successfully gone from one to the other?
She is 13 weeks old.

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No advice but my LO is exactly the same and she is 12 weeks! I spoke to my HV and she said it will get better after the four month regression and maybe creating the same type of environment that you do for night timešŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø

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Try with the first nap of the day and then build from there. It was hit and miss for me for the first two weeks but now she can do her naps in the cot (except the last nap of the day).

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Yes! We started transitioning to cot naps about 2 weeks ago now, my LO is 17 weeks tomorrow and all his naps are now in his cot in his room if we’re at home! I put him down awake and he’s learned to self settle himself to sleep within 5-10 minutes 🄰 it took about 2 weeks of putting him down in his cot and shhhing, rubbing his head or holding his hand for 10-30 minutes to get him to fall asleep but now he does it himself, just have to be consistent! If she is able to put herself to sleep at bed time she is capable of doing it during the day tooā˜ŗļø

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I've been trying to do this with my 15 week old, starting with the first nap of the day for now, but he just screams and has a teeny nap then ends up overtired. Did you find that your LO cried initially?

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that’s great! My little girl still protests quite a bit but she stays in the cot. Naps don’t go beyond 45 mins tough! What about yours?

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he did cry the first few times but I just reassured him I was there- didn’t pick him up, if he got really really distressed I would but he only ever protested and cried for about 10 mins and I would stroke his head or his hand so he knows I’m still there

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yup never goes beyond 40 mins-1hr aswell unfortunately but it’s the same no matter where he napsšŸ˜‚

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