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Has anybody else's child got a very very very strong attachment to Dad? I have a real Daddy's girl, she always has been since about 8 months to the point it was quite upsetting, but then seemed to even out for a few months. But now she seems to be back there again, crying if he leaves the room, screaming if I try to do her nappy when he's in the house, it makes me feel useless and like a failure tbh. I spend a lot more time with her than he does, I have always done 6/7 nights a week at least but for a long time all 7, (she wakes up every night still so ive recently asked him for help!!), I've always been the one to do more of the childcare stuff and it's so disheartening when it's like she doesn't want to be anywhere near me and go to Dad.
I'm glad they have a nice relationship but it's hard to not let it upset me when she's just so needy with him. When he's at work or out the house she doesn't ever ask for him and she's absolutely fine with it being just me. It's only when she knows he's here.
Anyone else in the same boat? š«
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Other way around for us! My daughter acts like she bloody hates him! Sheāll hit and scram, scream if I have to go somewhere, Iām not even allowed in the other room without her coming. Itās so draining as Iām pregnant too š© I appreciate the cuddles and stuff but itās so hard to see her reject him and not give me two minutes!
@Olivia must be very difficult ā¹ļø my partner is lucky in the sense he gets a fair bit of time at home by himself during the week when I'm at work and she's at nursery so I think it doesn't hit him so hard in that sense. Must be difficult to be that person all the time!
My son loves his daddy but itās me that he wants I canāt go anywhere without him screaming his head off I can hear him when we are out in a shop he only gets one day with daddy as my partner works 6 days a week itās so hard being the default parent I love that he wants me but itās tiring
My son is the other way round, itās all me, wonāt let daddy change a nappy or carry him anywhere if Iām around, heās fine if heās just with daddy and heās more than happy to play with daddy, itās just difficult as Iām 38 weeks pregnant so could really do with husband doing some more of the toddler care š try not to take it to heart, Iām sure itās just a phase š x
I get that it can be really tough. It may very well be that daddy is more of a ānovelty factorā if youāve been the one to do most of parental leave with your girl and nights etc. She may have much more trust that youāll be around as you pretty much always have been, so she feels secure in not being clingy with you as she knows youāll be there whereas if your partner has been around less due to work etc she may feel more of a need to be constantly with him in case he goes. Our little girl can flip flop between us and I can feel upset or rejected at times but I try to remind myself of the above, that itās not personal and to enjoy a little bit more freedom.
The fact sheās fine when the two of you are alone makes me pretty sure sheās happy and content with you!
@Michelle thank you, that makes me feel a bit better. What a nice way to look at it xx
Itās the same in our house my LO always wants her dad to do bedtime with her. I read up about it and although it can feel like rejection they actually feel secure and safe that you wonāt leave as you are their āconstantā parent. They can therefore appear more clingy or attached to the parent that doesnāt do as much with them as they are more aware of them leaving
@Sarah thank you so much for your reply it makes me feel less alone! Great info thank you x
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