Fear of sex

I’m about 5 weeks post, and my partner has been wanting to get intimate and I can’t find myself doing that. I’m extremely afraid of it being painful that i avoid anything involving sex. Idk if it’s just me but does/did anyone feel afraid to have sex after giving birth? Does it hurt?

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I went for it at 6 weeks post , I felt the exact same way but my partner eased me into it … you want to be as gentle as possible I had a vaginal birth and I was extremely fearful of feeling pain and at first I thought I did but after a little foreplay and relaxing with lubricant it felt as normal and painless as it usually does tho at the end of it all I did feel slight pressure but keep in mind you just had a human being exit your body your uterus is still recovering your body is still adjusting it’s normal !!

Wait until your dr clears you. Trust me. Your body neeeeds to recover properly. But just go easy the first time until you know how it feels. If it hurts, just stop and wait a bit longer.

It does hurt ngl the first time back feels like the very first time especially if you had stitches. not sure if not but I had to literally only do missionary because doggy or anything else would hurt but it takes time just go slow!

I was afraid and up to date, I am still afraid and not interested in sex. 9months PP

I waited seven weeks and it felt better than before ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

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