Boyfriend getting upset at baby for crying

Communicate it too him. I know within the first few weeks with our baby, my husband didn’t/couldnt understand why I had snapped at him one time (in the middle of the night when we couldn’t get my LO to calm down) and one night, I had him take over because I was absolutely frustrated because I couldn’t get her to sleep. (Her sleep regression) and he snapped at me. Well, I ended up feeding her out in the living room because I was upset. When I went back into the room, I put her in the crib, laid down and said “I didn’t appreciate how you spoke to me” and he apologized. Then I followed it with “I know I cry a lot. When I get frustrated I cry. When you get frustrated you snap. The way you felt when I snapped at you is how I currently feel. We are both frustrated we just express it differently “

I mean I would talk to him but being frustrated at kids for crying is completely normal. Kids can be annoying for sure. Especially if they are crying and you can’t figure out why. My daughter loved to scream her head off when we try to put her to sleep and it’s the most stressful and annoying we have ever been. So sometimes we yell and get mad and tell her to be quiet even tho we obviously know she’s not gonna listen. But sometimes we just need to let out our anger. Maybe talk to him to see if there’s anything you can do to help or just explain to him certain things about the crying

I would talk to him and find others was he can handle his frustration. He is also working two jobs so it can also be followed with tired and stress. Just talk about other ways to handle it instead of him getting upset in that way. Maybe walk out for a few mins to readjust.

Frustration is normal but yelling at a baby is completely unacceptable. We are the adults and should be able to handle our emotions better than an infant. Mistakes happen but let's not excuse them by saying you have to let out your anger somehow. Find another way to deal. Re: your boyfriend, I would approach it with compassion and give him some grace but let him know you'd like him to find other coping strategies for his feelings. My husband and I have a "tap in" policy where if you are in need of a break you can always hand off the baby and leave the room or put in headphones to re-center yourself.

I thought I was the only one with that issue he got so frustrated as well and snap and started yelling once he calmed down I talked to him and he apologized and said next time I get like that I’m just going to the balcony and get a fresh air and calm down but yes I got upset when he yield

He’s only human and we all have moments where we “snap” and say things when we’re frustrated. There’s been several nights for both my husband and I where one of us have been so sleep deprived and agitated that we’ve raised our voice and told our baby to hush, be quiet, or stop crying. I’ve usually done it while crying inconsolably myself. However, we’ve both learned to step in when we hear that the other is frustrated and to offer help or to switch off on our turn. This helps the frustrated one be able to walk off and calm down and we’ve noticed that our baby seems to calm down after we switch off. I think she senses that the other parent was getting frustrated and it only fuels to her frustration.