Mum's with more than one child

I’m due my second and slightly worried. I’m a teacher and will be going back to work. I won’t have much support as my family work and my partner usually works away midweek. I think I’m going to ask to return part time x

same situation. First will be in preschool and second will be 9 months. Partners job is very demanding with the odd London/Ireland trip. I currently work 4 days a week and I still feel this is too much. I end up trying to work on the Monday to get ready for the week while also wrangling a toddler who doesn’t day nap anymore 😅

Aw really it’s tough isn’t it. I’m the same my partner can be in Scotland, London and all over its very rare he’s got local work. My eldest child will be 11 so she’s able to get herself ready etc and help but I feel my day off will be catching up as my job is demanding too plus I am a senco so I have extra responsibilities. Maybe I need a 3 day working week although I donny think work would be impressed 😂🙄

it really is… I’m not sure what your dynamics are like but my partner is definitely the ‘breadwinner’ and it’s hard to justify how much time I need to do my job (prep lessons, mark, give class work feedback, parents evenings - the list never ends) when my pay compared to his just isn’t worth the time I have to put in. But the job still needs doing… how sad though. We’re considering doing less days and less pay just to be able to manage our jobs better on our ‘days off’ 🥲

I mean the school has a legal obligation to ‘make reasonable adjustments’ to help support your return. I’d ask for 3 if it’s financially possible and just see what school say. If they say no then at least then they’d have to accept 4. I’ve compared my pay with people who work 5 days a week and after tax, NI etc, the difference is minimal.

I work full time running my own salon. I work two late nights and wouldn’t be able to do these without their dad picking them up from nursery. Other than that I do all the drop offs and pick ups. It really is hard work but financially we are much better off me working. X

I know when you put it like that it’s really sad isn’t it. You’re right they need to make reasonable adjustments. My partner is the breadwinner but I like having my wage too I like the independence but I think we should be fine if I do 3 days a week. Oh really that’s really interesting I could do with looking at what the difference would be. X

I do work , domestic at a hospital, my fella has the kids in evening while I work

absolutely! I’d be bored out of my mind if I didn’t work. But I’m just finding 4 days is still too much. I used https://www.thesalarycalculator.co.uk/salary.php to see what my net pay would be. It’s bang on to the dollar. Only thing I had to adjust was the pension percentage. I used an old one and just kept playing around with numbers until it matched my payslip. Then used those numbers for .8 and .6 off the full time salary. Thank goodness daycare is becoming a lot cheaper with the 30 funded hours. 3 days might be a sweet spot.

ahh I know I would too! Thank you so much for that, I will have a go and work out my wage!