How would you feel?

Hello Ok how would you feel in these situations? 1. If you found out your man got a boner/ turned on by a woman he saw in public (as a single guy tho, before marriage) 2. If you found out your man is attracted to thick girls with big butts (and you don’t fit into that criteria even tho he married you) Just why are men like this? They say they love us for who we are and it doesn’t matter how we look like but then they’re attracted by big butts / boobs.
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1. Wouldn't care, attraction is normal and they can't exactly control if they get a boner or not. 2. Does he still find you attractive? It's possible to be attracted to more than one body type. If our sex life was good (which for me it is) and he was still making me feel loved/wanted, again I wouldn't care but I'm also attracted to other body types that don't look like him.

As long as he makes you feel valued/loved and doesn't want you to change yourself then that should matter the most xxxx

I agree with the other comments, my husband is sometimes attracted to women that do not look like me at all and I am attracted to men that do not look like him. Doesn't mean any of us go cheating or do not love each other as we are. I still think he's the most handsome man in the world, and he tells me he thinks I am beautiful everyday! Attraction doesn't mean much, it's in the brain, it's chemical. Love on the other hand means a lot. 😘 For the boner thing, I don't think you should think too much of it, even more if it was before being with you. It's just a physical reaction. I am sure he married you because he loves you very much and wouldn't trade it for the world. And I am sure you are as beautiful as these other women. He is with you and not with someone else for a reason 🥰

My husband wasn’t my type at all before we got together. But I still found him attractive. And now I actually don’t find any man more attractive than him. I can still find another men goodlooking, but I’d never act on it. And I’m sure my husband is the same. It’s not possible to be with someone and everyone else should suddenly become unattractive. Looks aren’t really anything when you’re actually in a mature healthy relationship

@Elle you made me teary with that last bit.. Ahh.. I’m just so sensitive rn..Thankyou for the reassurance

@Amelia no definitely, I get it yeah. No I’m not worried bout my husband cheating or acting on his attraction towards other woman. I guess i just hate the feeling that other women can turn him on.. but yeah I mean it’s a natural physical reaction.

1. Wouldn’t care. 2. Wouldn’t care.

Thanks ladies for the reassuring replies .. It’s definitely a self struggle that I need to work on.

I don’t think you should beat yourself up about it. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with feeling jealous it’s just how you deal with it. As long as you’re not popping off on your man about it I don’t see the issue. In my religion spouses are supposed to have jealousy to a degree as it shows love and lust 🤷🏽‍♀️. I used to get crazy jealous about my Husband and ex’s, but we’d speak about it and he’d always reassure me. And then he married me, gave me a baby and never made me feel more loved so I knew girls before meant nothing

He’s with you for a reason babe. I’m a little insecure too, try to work on that outside of him.

@Amelia Thankyou Amelia.

1. Wouldn’t bother me too much lol 2. You’ll find majority of men are attracted to the big bum, small waist type body. It’s normal because those are the things that we like as humans. As a woman I find others shaped like this mesmerising too lol. Doesn’t mean I want to sleep or be with them. I think those things are okay and people need to stop over analysing everything. He loves and wants to be with YOU! A lot of women would love to be with a man with lots and lots of money but are married to their very average Joe. Doesn’t mean they don’t love their Joe

@Emily yeah my Insecurity is the biggest issue and I hate it. I’m really working on it.. thanks Emily

honestly i completely understand how you’re feeling because i’m in a similar situation. my partner i’ve been with for 4 years and he’s always said he loves my body the most. but i know that he is attracted to large boobs, which i do not have and have never had. my boobs have been growing a bit since getting pregnant again and he’s been getting so excited. part of me is like.. that’s nice and all but clearly they weren’t good enough beforehand if you’re so excited over the growing?😵‍💫 ugh why does it have to be like this

@Amarachi hm.. Makes sense. Ah.. it’s like I don’t blame my man for being a man.. coz I totally get it. I just can’t help feeling so upset bout it.. but ahh.. I hate how emotional and sensitive I can be.. but I gotta remind myself that my average Joe loves his average Zoe

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Yeah I can sometimes over analyse situations too. I actually do it too much and I’m married to a man that’s the total opposite. He doesn’t think about anything too deep🤣 At the end of the day you have to remind yourself that he loves you and that’s what’s important. If he makes you happy and feel safe! Over analysing can be the biggest thief of joy! Don’t let it

@Abby yesssss, thiisss, same with my husband. He’s like “oh they’re getting bigger 😘”, and he knows it’s my pregnancy/ breastfeeding boobs.. and I’m glad he’s enjoying them now, but then what happens once they’re back to small. Like I’m just gonna be all self conscious again. A world without men would be great wouldn’t it, i feeel like us girls would be more confident

I remember my husband got a boner when we went to watch Hustlers 😭🤣🤣🤣 i was jealous but then i laughed about it bc hes never seen a stripper in his life and probably wont ever see one again

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