Still rear facing in car seat? When do we upgrade?

So my girl is 18 months old, is only about 22 lbs, but is a tall baby. We are still using her infant car seat rear facing since it's spec'd to be used rear facing until a maximum of 35 lbs and/or 32 in in height (we use the Evenflo pivot modular travel system with litemax infant car seat). I have read it's best to keep them rear facing as long as possible, but it feels like she's pretty snug in there now! She can't fully extend her legs unless she's lifting them up, and she complains about being in the car seat (but has always complained about it) and seems to want to be able to see us and more of her surroundings. I've been contemplating upgrading to a toddler car seat since we have a second baby due in June, but I haven't looked into it much yet so not sure what the requirements for that are, and with such a tiny toddler I'm not even sure if it's a good option.

Is everyone else still rear facing? Anyone upgrade to a toddler car seat yet? Suggestions on how to help my baby girl feel more comfortable?

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I upgraded my boys into the next size car seat, still rear facing. I have tall boys so they grew out of their infant seat pretty fast. I plan to keep my son rear facing as long as possible since it is safer for them. I would upgrade your daughter to the next car seat, but keep her rear facing. She’s going to love the roomy seating

I did that same as previously mentioned. We upgraded our boy when he turned 1 to his Diono and he’s still rear facing. But he’s SO much more comfortable. I’d suggest getting your next car seat so she has more room and keep her rear facing.

Please share your toddler car seats if you can! Would love recommendations!

We have upgraded from the newborn carrier/car seat to convertible in rear facing mode

https://www.target.com/p/graco-extend2fit-convertible-car-seat-gotham/-/A-50585130

I have that Graco one. I had it back when my oldest was younger and now my almost 18 month old is in it. My oldest used that Graco car seat till he was a little over 4 years old. I like this one because since they are tall kids, it extends for more comfort

I have the Cosco convertible car seat. Most people are gonna tell you to keep them rear facing til 18 (lol jk exaggerating but seriously they’ll say a long time) but it’s technically up to you and what you want to do. Most states legally you can at 2

We upgraded to a convertible car seat at 6 months. Doctor reccomended and said she would be more comfortable. Still rear facing.

Graco extend to grow

I've used Graco 4Ever DLX since birth with both of our daughters.
It's recommended to rear face until your child maxes out a convertible carseats height/weight limits.
Yes, it is legal to forward face by the age of 2 (and sometimes even 1) in some states, but legal does NOT mean safest.
My 3½ year old is in the 90th percentile and she's still rear facing. I hope she can remain that way for at least another 6 months.
We'll keep our 17 month old rear facing as long as possible too.

I turned my daughter at 5. We plan to do the same for our son.

We care about our kids safety over the popular "turn them around ASAP" opinion, just because it's legal.

We switched to a convertible car seat at 8 months. Our oldest rear faced in her convertible until 5.5 years. Our youngest is almost 3 and will rear face until at least 5.5 years old unless he maxes out the limits. Both of my kids are 90% percentile for height.

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