Naps

How long do your 3 month olds nap for? I’m lucky if I get 30 minutes 😫 I have twins and one fights naps tooth and nail so by the time I get him down his brother is up. I thought they’d still be napping longer! I have no time during the day to get anything done which sucks. And whoever says nap when the baby naps is literally insane. lol

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Same here. I'm lucky to get 30 minute naps so then he ends up inconsolable around 9pm when he's supposed to go to bed cause he's overtired. It's a struggle rn. Nothing seems to work

I’ve been struggling with an overly tired baby at night too 😫 his brother is a great napper and goes down easy at night but the other one takes a solid 2 hours to get down it’s brutal. He sleeps for 5 minutes then wakes up screaming but he can barely open his eyes because he’s so tired 😭

That's how it is for my little one. He takes a solid two hours as well and he's screaming almost the whole time. The only thing that calms him down during that time is starting at lights but then that just keeps him up even longer. He's also not a great sleeper throughout the night either so it's really rough right now but he's so worth it

My baby won't nap unless she's being held or next to me or my husband. If she is then she'll nap for hours but only 30 minutes in the bassinet. I just hold her or lie next to her in bed for naps. I'm not getting much done but this is such a short season in life, I'm willing to leave the dishes for an extra day or two if that's the trade-off.

In her bassinet, 30-45 min. On my husbands chest, 2-3 hours lol. I usually just hold her for naps so i know she’ll get a good hour nap in

My lo used to fight naps so hard!! She still does, I've just got it down to a science (for now, anyway, until it stops working randomly like it certainly will). I do a feed play diaper feed sleep routine for her wake cycles, and start putting her down the SECOND I see early sleepy cues (hers are flushed eyebrows and staring into space). I use a shusher (its seriously amazing. Initially thought it was silly and unnecessary but I freaking LOVE that thing now lol) sofly in the background and gently stroke her forehead down her nose while very gently rocking/ swiveling in the glider. Usually has her out in 5 minutes, then I transfer her to her pack n play and leave the shusher on for her for another 15 minutes. Gets her in a deep enough sleep she'll be down for 3-4 hours if I let her keep sleeping!

We had the same issue and still kinda do. I read that around this age the maternal storage of melatonin is depleted and it is hard for them to stay asleep longer during naps. Suggestion was to do contact nap once a baby Wakes up 20-30 minutes into a nap. Not sure how doable that is with twins but it did work for us. My baby now sleeps 20-30 minutes in his bassinet and then another 40-100 minute on us or next to us.

Augh, same. My LO fights daytime sleep so hard 😮‍💨

I usually have to wear him/use his carrier in order for him to sleep during the day. It kills my back, but he'll rest a little longer. Sometimes if we have appointments or errands, he'll fall asleep in the car and if he's still sleeping when we get home, I'll let him sleep in his carseat (I know some people frown upon this, but baby can be in carseat safely for up to 2 hours).

I have twins too hun its definitely clock work one will go down no problems the other fights for her life next thing you know it one is waking up and the other one is down for a blink nap 😅

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Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

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Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

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The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

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My husband is very supportive, but he is also someone who wants to make things as easy and as stress free as possible.

With our first child, I tried to breastfeed, but due to my own medical issues postpartum, baby and I were separated a lot and my milk dried up so quickly. We introduced formula around 2 weeks PP, and I tried pumping as much as I could, but it just lead to nothing. It was heartbreaking. It definitely ruined a lot of those early weeks for me, I was wrecked with guilt and sadness. I cried every day and felt like such a failure.

Now my son is a healthy, happy 2 year old and I eventually came to terms with formula feeding him. He was quite content with the first formula we tried, never had feeding or gas issues etc, so it felt like a much easier option.

Obviously my husband witnessed all of this and now we're expecting our second baby, he sort of assumed we'd just go straight to formula.

I told him pretty early that I'd like to try breastfeeding again, and although I won't be putting so much pressure on myself this time, I've also done more research and I'm more prepared for the hard times that might come up in the early days/weeks, and I'm trying to prepare for any complications.

He's very supportive and says it's totally up to me and hasn't tried to sway me either way, but I do get a feeling the moment things get difficult PP he will automatically be buying formula. And he won't mean it in a bad way, he'll just be trying to make things easier for me and take off the pressure. He won't understand that it's unhelpful.

His thinking is that as long as baby is fed that's all that matters, and I agree mostly! But I also understand how beneficial breastfeeding can be and want to give it all my effort if I'm able!

So I guess I'm asking, are there any good resources I could send him to read? Preferably nothing too long/wordy, but something that explains the benefits and how to best support me during this time too? (Also something preferably from the UK as I know guidance can differ depending on country)