Loneliness!

How are you all coping in pregnancy?

I’m struggling, nothing against my partner he’s great, but I live in a tiny village, work from home 4 days a week and just feel so lonely.

It’s affecting my self confidence and mental health in general.

Not sure why I’m posting, just want to know I’m not alone!

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

I'm struggling. I don't have many friends and those I have we all live at least 30 mins away from each other. I lost my job and home and we are now living back with my Mum and brother and will be crammed in one small room when baby arrives. We literally will have about to pick the crib up on our bed to be able to open wardrobe and chest of draws.
I cannot afford to go to any classes to meet new Mum's. This hasn't worked for me either. I've messaged people that have waved and I've waved back then not had replies but I like the other parts of the app for support.
My mental health is really suffering and I feel so alone because I cannot get away. I have 2 dogs who I adore and if I could just walk them but my brother has a big dog who gets all worked up and I then can't get out and leave her alone but I also can't manage her.
Sorry don't mean to rant on your post but explaining I get it but a bit differently too.

Find someone friends and tey to get out of house even for walk as much as you can ❤️

please rant away!! It’s so difficult and you don’t get told about how much it will affect how you feel about things. Hope you hold in there! Everything will be a lot brighter when baby is here ❤️

no one ever replies! And also people live so far away. I have two dogs and try to get out as much as possible, but been difficult to walk them on my own as well so that doesn’t help. It just feels really lonely at the moment x

I promise you will get more friends when you ho to baby group and nursery starts 🥰 for now concentrate then on your wellness and your baby ❤️ I started collage before getting pregnant, and it's so nice to get our of house just 1x in 2 weeks 😁

in our community

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

If you DO NOT buy things second hand, it is mainly because:

Answer only if it applies to you.

Going back to work!

Already thinking about this! Told my boss I was pregnant this week at 10 weeks, he was so happy for me. He’s recently became a first time Dad and was showing me pictures of his baby. I told him my plans about going back after 6 months and he looked at me like I was mad, am I!? I absolutely love my job and cannot imagine giving it up, I manage a team and am petrified my position won’t be there if I had a year off. My husband gets 6 months full pay so the plan would be for him to have the last 6 months off and I also made it clear to my boss that I would like to go part time. That way we can hopefully parent together 4/7 days rather than just the weekend! I am such an overthinking! 🤣 but this is what I’m struggling with the most, I’ve worked full time since I was 17 (12 years ago) and the max time I’ve had off in one go is 2 weeks when I got married. I’m sooo excited to be a Mum and we decided now was the right time, which it 100% is! But I feel so on edge about not working! I’m sure once I’m on maternity leave I won’t even think about work! Has anyone else felt the same?

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️