Child benefit

Anyone who’s already got there child benefit sorted how long did it take for you? And did you submit online or by post?

It made me submit mine by post and they’ve said to me it takes 21 days to go on the system from posting and then 12 weeks after that🥲 my child maitenence claim won’t be processed until I start receiving child benefit so wanted to see if anyone received quicker than the 12 weeks?

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Did mine online and had money less then 2 weeks later. Really easy to do I found.

I would also like to know this too! I only sent mine off a few days ago but was fuming I had to send it by post because it made me fill the whole form in online just to have to print it off to send by post so then I had to send it to my dad to print off for me because I don’t have a printer and then I didn’t see my dad for 2 weeks so I had to wait 🥲 x

how did you do it online??? They made me do the form online and then print it off and send in post 🙃🙃🙃 x

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I did mine online and received mine within 2 weeks. I was concerned cause it told me it could be April before being processed and I also needed mine for maintenence too. Fortunately it was only 2 weeks. I found it came in to my bank account before I knew it had even been processed

Did mine on gov.uk and got it 10 days after

I'm not sure, I just went online and applied 🤷‍♀️

I also did mine online (after creating a government gateway ID) and then on the last page it told me I had to print it off and send it through the post, which means it won’t be processed until May..!

For those of you who were able to submit online and not through the post: is it the first time you are claiming for child benefits? Just wondering if they’re forcing new claimants to submit through the post rather than online

I did it all online and payment arrived within a couple of weeks. I already had an existing government gateway account so not sure if this is the reason why I didn't have to print and post???

I was claiming for the first time and didn't have to post it

mine was exactly the same! So frustrating, especially seeing as when I rung HMRC today they said from posting it takes 21 days for them to put you on the system and then 12 weeks from then..when I asked if it’s backdated they said only until it’s on the system so not including that 21 days, really unlucky I feel for all us people who randomly had to post it! X

honestly not sure, I had a government gateway account too and it still made me post mine..so strange

Sounds like a lucky dip as to who gets to do it online 🙄 how ridiculous!!!

Got mine within a week

I applied on a Monday and got paid the money the following money. I got the payment before I got the confirmation letter 🤣 it was really quick

I had to print mine off. I'm still waiting

when did you send it if you don’t mind me asking x

I sent it off 1feb x

fingers crossed it’s not too much longer for you!x

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