Baby father issues

Personally if it were me, if my babies father didn’t want to be involved or contribute anything I wouldn’t force it. There is nothing worse than having a parent who resents you and will likely use it as ammunition in future discussions. I think your baby will have a mother who loves the bones of him/or her and won’t be missing anything. That being said you need to do what is right for you and your little one! Either way you’re going to. BE an amazing parent to your child x

Thank you for the advice what is a CMS claim x

Thank you for advice dear and your words of encouragement xx

thank you so much this is very helpful 🫶🫶

I would definitely go through the official government payment route for him to support financially so you can have minimal contact with him. He doesn’t sound as though he’ll make things easy and that way the government can make sure he’s paying and you can focus on bringing up your amazing baby ☺️ It sounds as though this baby will be a lot better off without him and from someone who grew up without a dad around - it doesn’t make a bit of difference! So much better to grow up with a loving mum than in an unhappy household or one with conflict between parents.

You’ve got this! X

Just stay away from him. If he did this to you imagine what else will happen. He didn’t want the child from the beginning. If you put him on child support it gives him rights to the child. If he wants to see baby.

no worries! Parenthood is stressful enough I just wouldn’t add more stress worrying about someone like him. At the end of the day you are what your baby needs! Xx

Tbh id just flat out tell his wife? I mean why not ? She should know and go down to the department of human services they’ll guide you on how to get support for the baby

No one touched on it, but I don’t think blackmail is the way to go. Don’t tell him he needs to or you’re gonna tell his wife. She should know to begin with just saying someone should tell her woman to woman that’s what we would want not being rude, just being honest here when I say this, they say mothers are allowed to make the choice whether they get to keep their baby or not no matter how the father feels so therefore, if you chose to keep the baby without his support, then you shouldn’t need his financial support either I recently was told it’s a woman’s job to protect her own body Yet somehow men are wrong when they don’t take financial responsibility things go both ways and this shit is a slippery slope of back-and-forth, but I also don’t agree with the fact that he shouldn’t have to support his child but if it’s OK to say it’s a woman’s body it’s her choice then it’s also the woman’s responsibility and not the man’s at least how I’ve been told and no I’m not intending that 1/2

Those comments to be rude toward you. I’m saying that in regards to the contradiction of women and the double standards. 2/2

Unfortunately, you cannot get someone to act the way you want them to act so it seems there is no point in trying to do this. However, you could speak with a family solicitor and request them to send a ‘letter of intent’ which would outline the fact that the purpose of the communication is in relation to the child and to encourage support them outline the fact of things cannot be sorted out in a friendly manner the only option is court x

As someone who wishes my sons father would f off I'd say leave him to it sweetheart. You can't force someone to love and care for your child like you will and it will only hurt you more if he either denies you all over again or if he does everything within his power to not help. My sons dad is on a collect and pay order from CSA he gets money taken from his wage before he gets paid because he refuses to pay for my son. He refuses to care or listen about him being ASD and it breaks my heart. I can care for my son better than he could I know that hands down. So at this stage I'd rather struggle and do it alone than have to re-educate a gorwn man and have to fix the emotional damage he causes my son everytime he sees him