Definitely legal action. She can’t just decide he isn’t allowed at your home, unless there’s a safeguarding concern. Sounds like it’s affecting the child as well, so unfair some adults acts like that 🙁 hope you get it sorted xx
Have a look at the Facebook page ‘Fathers justice UK support and advice page’ its the one with the red rose in the logo.. they have SO many people on there who are mckenzie friends and have gone through the court system they should be able to give you some solid advice. They aren’t ’fathers for justice’ - that’s a different group. From what I know I completely get why court would be difficult , but the not telling you ss about his brother will be strongly frowned upon as it’s controlling behaviour and children have rights to know their family.. my husbands ex tried to do the same thing .. saying my husband could visit his son but not in the house as she didn’t know me and doesn’t know ‘my son’ the judge was not happy and very quickly reminded her that she wasn’t being child focused !!
Attempt meditation if unsuccessful court. Ask for half of the summer holidays, 3 weeks each, half of easter a week each and every half term, October, February and May. Go through CSA and claim travel expenses and ask the courts for mum to meet half way at a half way location. Ask for a Friday update of the whole week and Sunday update of the weekend and every Wednesday video call with child. The above suggested has been granted to a father I know.
Sounds like you’re best off taking legal action if there’s no way of reasoning with the ex, is there already a court order in place? It’s totally unrealistic/unreasonable to expect your partner to fly back and forth from Scotland with SS yet he’s not allowed in your home! And unless there was a genuine safeguarding reason for it I can’t see a court agreeing to that either! X