What makes you a bad mom?

I’m still pregnant so I can’t say what makes me a bad mom. But I just want to say while people may make you feel like a bad mom for things, just know that you aren’t! Every mom will make decisions that are best for her and her child. I may be a bit different with what I do but we both are just doing what works for us and what we believe to be best for our child!

Having an elective cesarean because my baby was massive (too weak to birth her apparently even though I had major surgery to get her out.
Did purées at 4 months
Vaccinated her so she could go to daycare
Went back to work at 8 months to help support our family as we want to buy our own house and can’t be a single income household in this economy

sounds like you’re such a horrible mom providing for your child by working how selfish of you 😂 how dare you sacrifice your body and put it through major surgery to bring her into the world safely that’s just outrageous 🤔🤔

ikr I had a group of mothers on government money who completely cut me off for going back to work when I’m not eligible for government benefits

terrible example you’re setting for your kids teaching them to work hard 😂😂

I decided to stay home instead of going back to work (I’m obviously trying to suck us dry off of the close to minimum wage job bf has)
I said absolutely not over rice cereal being added to bottles (obviously I’m dumb everybody use to do it)
Formula is an absolutely last resort, even in case of death, breast milk is preferred. (I clearly have a vanity problem and I’m a sick human) 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ but every dang time, I stand on my choices. Don’t gaf how mad the haters get. My boy smiles to much for me to care.

my goodness how lazy of you to stay home to care for your child absolutely disgusting 🤦‍♀️ (I joke) good on you mama for standing by your choices !!! Do what’s right for you and your family ❤️

I have to say this post cheered me up. I have been struggling with the mom guilt hard lately and the level of sarcasm in this post is wonderful. It's proof that every family is different, every child needs different things from their parents and there's a reason there's no rule book. If every child was supposed to be raised the exact same way then someone would have written it all down but there isn't. Each baby is unique and every parent has different ways of raising each unique baby. Even with siblings being raised by the same parents methods have to change to do what's best for each.

Thank you so much for this post. It made my day.

aha you’re so very welcome and absolutely 100% correct ! No such thing as textbook babies ! ❤️❤️

It was never said out loud by my mother…but after I had my 1st..I had almost a 4th degree tear..very painful lol. 2 weeks postpartum my mom wanted us to go on walks..wanted to reorganize my kitchen cabinets…and especially with the cabinets it’s a lot of bending and whatnot..with stitches still in!!!! And I was too tired to help so I had to sit down and she gave me this look 👀 and I tell you..like mother. I JUST GAVE BIRTH!!!!!!
But definitely a bad mom for not constantly having a spotless house according to my mother lol.

oh my word how dare you recover …😂 how selfish of you 🤔 …I joke I joke you handled that much better than I because lord knows I’d have flipped 😂😂

I co-sleep( it's so dangerous, you'll never get them out of your bed) I ebf and cut out dairy for lo's dairy allergy ( why don't you just switch to formula so you can eat whatever you want) we don't do #dyes (oh that doesn't make a difference we don't do sleepovers at other kids houses( that's not letting them have a childhood)....

haha ohh trust me if I could go back in time I would have flipped out on her 😭😂

I'm horrible
* for co sleeping with my son for over two years
*For vaccinating him
*For giving him processed food sometimes
*For allowing limited screen time
* For letting him listen to blippi music on loop
* For not giving him medicine every time he gets hurt or gets a mild fever
* For having him in a front facing carseat
*For using a leash with him in public so he doesn't run away
*For having him in clothes that are too small sometimes because I didn't magically predict a growth spurt
*For not waking him up early in the morning
*For letting him skip naps when I can tell he isn't tired
*For letting him eat stuff if it falls on the (clean) floor
*For injuries he gets doing normal toddler stuff
*For not disciplining him enough

The list is endless really. Mostly judgement from my own mom and MIL. It used to really bother me but I've gotten great at ignoring it. Even being snarky in return because it's not like either of them were good moms either...

I sleep when my baby sleeps, and don’t do anything else until it’s time for her to be fed again. (Messy house sometimes.)

I also got the epidural, and had the best birth of my life. (I didn’t feel my 2nd degree tear, and I didn’t even know my doctor had stitched me until I looked down and saw her finishing up.)

Baby sleeps in a Boppy pillow on the bed with a blanket. (She likes to be warm.)

My baby doesn’t cry unless she’s sleepy, hungry, or needs to be fed. I don’t bother her when she’s sleeping.

My daughter was born small, and is still measuring pretty small, but at this point I think it’s honestly just who she is. But I feed her in demand, because she’s just a baby lmao. Like how are people going to be upset about a baby needing to eat?