Dummy for EBF baby

Which dummy did your EBF baby accept? My 14 week old little boy has terrible reflux and the last week has been really bad, I can tell he’s really struggling with it now. In nearly 3 weeks he’s gained only 8oz and I’m starting to really worry. I know reflux peaks at around the 4 month mark so hoping to just ride it out and that when he starts solids it will settle a bit. His naps in the day are awful, won’t sleep longer than 30 minutes and at night he wakes every 2-3 hours to feed, and sometimes in between that with wind. I want to try a dummy first as I’ve been reading that the extra saliva that they produce from sucking a dummy can help to settle the reflux a bit and obviously provide comfort. My first little boy accepted MAM dummies no problem, but my 14 week old won’t accept them at all, can’t seem to figure out how to suck them and just gags and spits them out. Also not sure if I’ve missed the dummy boat as he is older now? Any suggestions?

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So sorry to hear you and your little one are having a rough time 😔 I'm EBF and my little boy only took to the BiBs round dummies, went through about 4 different brand dummies before we found this one that works and he loves them
And I love the colours they come in! Get mine off amazon x

I agree you just have to try different brands until you find one they like

Hey, my LO was in hospital at 7 weeks due to severe reflux, he has been on omeprezole ever since and is now 17 weeks. We had the same issue with the dummy and the nurse told me to get Tommy tippee ultra light dummies and they have been a game changer, they sell out everywhere but I think Amazon have them, the only dummy he can keep in himself

had seen the bibs ones and nearly ordered them on Amazon this morning too. Going to pop to boots now and see what ones they have, and then afterwards get on Amazon and order a couple of brands off there too. Hopefully he accepts one brand that I get😂

so sorry you’re having a hard time with your little ones reflux☹️ it’s so awful. My first little boy was on omeprazole for silent reflux and it helped so much but he struggled with the pain of the reflux. It doesn’t seem to bother my 14 week old at all, just obviously the issues with weight gain and sleep. Thank you, I’ll give those a try too x

I wish my boy would take a dummy I’ve tried nanobabe (the same brand as the bottle he has) mam, tommee tipper ultra lightweight ones but he just wants boob he’s 30 minutes in the day and 30m-1 hr at night at the minute I’m thinking it’s the sleep regression. I’ve currently been awake for 4 hours x

you poor thing☹️ some nights are so hard. My little boy has accepted a NUK dummy. It seems to imitate his latch at the boob quite closely. Might also be a growth spurt x

we ended up on a and e after 111 call poor boys got an ear infection and they can’t rule out perforated ear drum either so that explains a lot he was in pain this whole time 🥺 x

are they the nuk MommyFeel ones? I’ve ordered some a last ditch attempt as the shape of the actual dummy rather than the tear resembles boob/bottle and he takes a bottle fine x

fingers crossed x

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My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.

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