Wedding with a toddler

I've seen a few posts on here about people getting married. Just wondered how the wedding went with a toddler? I'm nervous about how the day is going to go, will he nap, will I be worrying about him all day etc. Any tips from those who have got married with a toddler around? I know ultimately I can't really plan that part but any advice would be great 😃

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Following for any answers! I get married on 16th March and am asking myself the same questions!!

my son is 17 months and my mum got married on the 7th and my son was awful. he was so overstimulated, having tantrums and just overall so unhappy which was so stressful. DEFINITELY take a pushchair as my son did nap for an hour and even later on in the night just so you’re not chasing them round the whole time, i put him in and just danced to him for an hour to give myself a break. my sons still in nappies so if yours is too, definitely take spare clothes, my son never ever leaks and he decided to on the day so i had to put his pyjamas on quite early. other than that i’d just say take the help where you can get it, the one positive was being surrounded by family and kids that could occupy him when i needed a short break

So I got married last weekend :)

I had been so worried about napping / stranger danger etc as she is a bit funny with new people and honestly she was amazing! I put her down for a nap two hours earlier than normal (10am) and she slept until 12:30 when I went and woke her up because I needed to get her ready 😂😂

She was so good around all the new people and in all honesty I barely saw her all day 😅 she had a blast so all my worrying was for nothing! She stayed in my mums room at night so my mum went up to bed early and missed a lot of the party which I did feel a bit bad about but she didn’t mind

congrats! This is my plan, put her down a bit earlier than normal and get her up about 12.45 to get her dressed. My worry is when it comes to about 7ish when it’s normally her bedtime. I’m hoping she will either go down in the travel cot as normal (we are taking the baby monitor) and then my sister is taking her home with her at end of the night or hopefully she will sleep in her pram x

That’s the only trouble we had, my mum tried to take her up at 7:30ish and she would not settle at all.. she had had a crème brûlée though 😂😂 so was hyped up on sugar and excitement of the day I think so she ended up bringing her back down for an hour or so at 9ish and she just had a late night !

Thank you for your reply Kelly. Congratulations!
My little boy is a bit clingy with me and my partner at the moment and that's what I'm worried about. That and naps as he only naps in his cot and doesn't like to nap in the pram. What time was your ceremony Kelly?
I know it's just the one thing we can't plan on the wedding so I'm just hoping that it goes okay lol xx

My little girl is really clingy to me too and can be a bit funny with men for some reason but she was so sociable and was happy being held by strangers all day which is so unlike her!

My ceremony was at 2:30 and she napped 10-12:30 in a travel cot (we have a comfy mattress for the travel cot otherwise she refuses to go in it)

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Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

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Now my son is a healthy, happy 2 year old and I eventually came to terms with formula feeding him. He was quite content with the first formula we tried, never had feeding or gas issues etc, so it felt like a much easier option.

Obviously my husband witnessed all of this and now we're expecting our second baby, he sort of assumed we'd just go straight to formula.

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He's very supportive and says it's totally up to me and hasn't tried to sway me either way, but I do get a feeling the moment things get difficult PP he will automatically be buying formula. And he won't mean it in a bad way, he'll just be trying to make things easier for me and take off the pressure. He won't understand that it's unhelpful.

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