Self settling for bedtime

Can anyone share their tips and tricks for getting little ones to self settle at night? My LO would just cry and even if we pick him up and he stops, he would just cry again?

How long do you go on trying this before rocking/feeding to sleep?x

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We don't have a strict bedtime and just go off his tired ques. We always stuck to putting him down dozey and this really worked for us. He's never cried it out and we've never sleep trained. I'll just hold his face and shush him until he fully drifts off.

I'm not sure if that's technically self settling tho!

I do bath, bottle, story, bed, she used to cry instantly as soon as I put her down but I've just started putting my hand on her chest and gently rocking her this soothes her as soon as she's okay I walk okay when she starts crying again I leave her for 2-3 mins unless she's hysterical and then I'll do the same thing with a long shhhhh and keep going this. At first I done this probably 5-6 times before it worked I'm now down to 1-2 times before she falls asleep I think it's just about being consistent with what it is that your trying so they get used to what your expecting of them at that time xx

I’ve just started doing some gentle training, put him down awake for naps and just pop my hand on his chest and shhh, then leave the room and do quick check ins doing the same till asleep, he now falls asleep after a few minutes generally and I’ve been doing this since Friday so it’s still new just takes lots of practice and patience x

Sorry for jumping on this post - thanks for all the comments. I’ve tried a couple of times but my little one gets hysterical and I panic and pick her up. Think I need to try and leave it a couple of minutes a time and hopefully she settles! 🙏🏼

I did think that when she couldn’t see me her cry softened!

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