Partners

I am exactly the same it’s so hard as it feels like our routines change so drastically and our day to day lives yet there’s doesn’t. I don’t think partners realise how much we have to remeber and do on a daily basis ! Me and my partner were arguing loads but I think communication is key just sit him down and tell him how you feel or write it down and give it to him. At least then you know you e told him ! X

Could have wrote this myself. Me and my husband never argue and we still haven’t but since giving birth I am developed a rage towards him for the most stupidest reasons. I got the baby to sleep last night and was trying to be quiet after multiple attempts of putting him down, husband threw his socks at the washing basket, they hit the floor and woke baby up. I was instantly angry! Also mine also complains about being tired! Come home from work and wants a nap!

My partners always asks me what day it is….. as if I don’t have enough life admin to do and juggle?!?

The “standing ovation” bit really hit home. And holding the baby. I literally have to tell him every time to take her or pick her up. He never does on his own accord and when I mentioned it - “well, I can’t read your mind. If you wanted me to pick her up, say”. Like wtf, you have no desire yourself

Girls I am so glad (but not glad at the same time!) that I’m not the only one going through this! I’m sure it’ll get better with time, we’re all still learning and adjusting. You’re all amazing. Hang in there 🩷

Yep I totally get how you’re feeling too. It feels like it’s constantly a battle of who’s doing the most housework and little digs make me feel bad for not doing something like cleaning the bathroom. I’m lucky if I get a shower for myself every day. A deep clean of the bathroom is the least of my concern. “This house is a total mess” really grinds on me now when I’m doing things like laundry and washing up 6 times a day

oh yes we get all this aswell!! He’s breastfed and I do feel there’s some kind of jealousy there around the fact that I’m also the only person able to feed him (he won’t take a bottle if I’m around!) they’re called cues for a reason, no mum likes the late cue stages 🫠 xx

I think it’s called marriage with children lol…. the best thing we have done is get a cleaner 3 hours every 2 weeks and it’s the best money spent! It’s actually a highlight when she comes and we are now friends 😂! If you can afford it do it !!

we did have one but it was my mum ! (We paid her she’s a cleaner for a living) and it was great! She’s got bad hips so had to stop and we can’t afford any other cleaners as she did us cheaper given she’s my mum lol! I do like to make a point of finding the time to do it myself when he can hardly put the washing machine on though 🤣

Same scenario here 🤦‍♀️. We have a toddler and baby at home. My husband comes home from work to his tea cooked three nights a week, washing kept on top of, children alive 😅. Then he sits on his phone while I do the bathtime/bedtime routine. He never has done night feeds with either of our children. Then he heads to the gym three times a week just as he fancies 🙄. Apparently, I should 'ask' if I want help or him to do something 😑

mums are the best aren’t they…. I just looked at your profile my baby boy is our double rainbow and I did notice your age too… I’m 43 and honestly wish I had the energy I had when I was in my early 20s xx

ahhh the “ask me” is infuriating 😂

they sure are, In every way!! I’m so sorry for your loss, I hope your heart is so full with your rainbow. Children don’t replace children but I like to say they’re here because of our angels, never instead of them!! I take my hat off to you because I feel like I have no energy at 23 🫠😂🥰 xx

, winds me up so much 🤬

Could you find a day, maybe at a weekend, where he has baby and you go out? Even just to the shops and stuff? Might make him realise how much we have to juggle and how damn hard it is! If you EBF I know that makes it tricky but if you don’t, that’s what I’d suggest so he has a full day to experience what we do every day.

I wrote a similar post the other day. I’m so fed up of him being able to do what he wants when he wants, whilst I can barely go for a wee or find time to feed myself. He complains all the time that he’s tired even though he’s never had to get up with the baby and he’s been saying he is struggling not having time for himself… what the fuck guys?! This isn’t 1950, they need to learn to parent and fast 😡

My husband is really good with her and helps as much as he can after work and on weekends but even STILL when he moans about being tired I get so annoyed. They just dont know the feeling of having someone virtually attached to you or the mental drain of having to rush every minute you are alone for like 20 hours of the day. I texted him this morning to say I managed to have breakfast alone for the first time in 3 weeks (I left her in the next to me for about 8 mins with the door open so I could hear her lol 🙄) I am tempted to go to my mums from 8am til 5pm, come home and help him for 2 hours then go to bed and see how he manages but I dont think we would be friends after 😂

Same 🤦🏼‍♀️! I thought I was just being unreasonable! My boyfriend does try and help - he gets back from work and will have our little girl while I do housework or tutor. He says all the time how tired he is (which I know is true as work is tough) but then I’m always like “I’m tired too…”. Looking after a baby is harder than a full time job! My boyfriend always says I’m lucky to be able to have the time to experience more with her, and although I agree - I also have way more of the stress and pressure that goes with it.
Honestly - me and my boyfriend hardly ever argued before I have the little one - but the sleep deprivation has definitely caused a few arguments 😂 and as much as I try to be nice and see his side - the rage in my builds and I explode! Especially when he says he doesn’t get any “me time” (neither do I!!) when he has her it’s cause I’m working or doing housework!

It’s such a big life and relationship change! I think as they get older (the little ones) it will get easier!!

I do EBF and baby won’t take a bottle! It’s a nightmare! Fab idea tho!! X

Do we all have the same man 🤣

I’m right there with you! I’m really starting to resent him tbh. I get they work hard but being a father is also a job. He comes home and gets ready to have “him time” goes off to the gym and does as he pleases. I’ve needed a hair cut for months but it feels I have to “ask” or “book” him in to help should I want to do something. Men just aren’t wired the same way as us unfortunately.

Same! It normally get easier as they get older and interact more, so that's something to look forward to!

I sat my husband down and was like do you thank me when I do x,y,z and he was like no.... and I was like well don't expect a thank you when you've only done what I've asked as it's not as much 🤣 he hasn't got annoyed at not being appreciated since 🤣

I’ve tried this one and he said ‘I’m just proud of myself and feel like I deserve it’ WHAT ABOUT ME?! What makes him think that I don’t want appreciation for everything I do (which is 1000X more what he does) I feel like because I’m a woman and it’s expected of me he feels like I don’t deserve recognition! He always says ‘most dads don’t do as much as I do’, in my opinion that’s a way of saying all mums have to do what you do so why should I thank you for it 🙄🫠 I hope it gets easier as he gets older because it’s winding me right up!! Every morning he says how tired he is and I just have to ignore him because he slept through every night feed and puts his head under the pillow!! Sorry rant over lmao x

apparently so 🤣🤣

Did they actually expect their lives to stay the same when they had kids? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Wow I feel like I've just wrote this myself x