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Hi fellow moms, need sone serious advice and guidance. Being a mom of a 2.5 yr old naughty kid, I have chose to take a backseat in my career. Though I am still working , but I have chosen not to take up any higher salaried job as with higher salary connes higher responsibilities at work which woyld hamper my motherhood duties and raking care of my child. So I have chosen to continue with my current job only. My husband is earning a lot but still we are not able to lead a ‘ lavish’ life. We are just continuing a middle class lifestyle as we have to support the kid’s expenses. My husband every now andcthen insults me bcz of my low incone and unwillingness to try for a higher salaried job. He overlooks the egforts I put at our home and towards our child and his only conpkaint is if I focused on my career, we cud have led a lavish lifestyle. I don’t want to be selfish just for earning money and dedicate my whole energy and time to work. Am I wrong ? Can you suggest me any ways I can have some side income sitting at home.

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You’re not wrong. Not everything in life is about earning billy bundles of money. I mean, don’t get me wrong, we obviously need money to survive and I get times have been tough, but as long as you’re coping (which I’m guessing you are), then I think it’s absolutely ok that you want to put being a parent to your kid as a priority. Your husbands being a tad insensitive. You could also counter his comment by saying ‘why don’t you opt for a higher paid role?’ .. see how he responds 🫢🫣 x

he is already wirking in a high paid job whete he has to work almost 14-15 hours a day. We both work in the same sector, IT to b specific, and seeing him work fr such long hours for a higher salary is discouraging me even more to opt for such a higher salary job

Simply tell him that then. At the end of the day you are entitled to being happy and if working the job you have now and being able to take care of your child allows you to do that, then no one should be making you feel bad. It’s HIS choice to work a high end job working all hours under the sun, but it doesn’t have to be yours. Don’t let anyone dictate how you should run your life 😊

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