Stress or Burnout?

She’s 2.5 and I’m barely getting there . Now I’m dealing with added weight , taking care of myself nails, hair , still won’t get back to wearing makeup. It’s been a complete Identity change . I love certain things, hate certain others like having no support. Times heals all . Wish you luck stress and or burnout .

I get every Friday night out. And maybe one more if I organise a catch-up w a friend. I usually go out once as standard, and some weeks twice. Like this Friday night is my salsa night as standard, and my local peanut group have organised a dinner and drinks w no kids this Sat night. Last Sat I went to a shisha bar w a friends to eat and drink, and we dropped by a club for an hr after that for fun. Utilise Friday and Sat nights and take a night off xx invite a friend, go somewhere . As for nails hair and makeup I do that all at home, I cut and dye my own hair, I cut baby boys and Hubbys hair, i do my own nails. I keep up w physical maintenance coz I don’t need to make an appointment and book, I’ll just bring out my supplies and do them at home. One hr before I need to go out I’ll put some press ons my nails and after 10mins I have a full set of gorgeous nails. I refuse to let myself go.

Yes, something’s that help me is focusing on my breathing in high stress moments. Drinking water, daily vitamins and fresh air. I try to decrease the amount of things I have to clean up each day so that I can do at least 1 thing for my self every day or every other day. I think about what’s causing me stress and if it’s temporary or long term because that matters. If it’s temporary then I tell myself that I can fight through it. If it’s long term, I have to change something,

Following for advice. My daughter is almost 18 months and I’m exhausted. My whole body aches all the time. I work full time during the day, and my partner works evenings so I’m alone with her most of the time. When I get home from work, I’m cooking dinner and feel like I barely have any time to just sit and play with her. It breaks my heart. I have no time to do anything for me. I’ve had one haircut since she was born, and that was last July. I work 7-3, so I’m getting up at 4:30am to make sure I’m ready for work before I have to get my daughter up at 5:45 to be out the door by 6:30. I try to go to bed at 8:30-9 to get enough sleep, but even though my body is tired, my mind usually is not. We have no support system outside of the house, either. Both my and my partner’s moms have passed and the extended family that lives close doesn’t help.

Yes totally me

Oh my goodness I think we're in the same boat and put my son is 8 years old and I am very stressed out and like going crazy ever since when I started working later hours now and it's just too much for me sometimes I just need something to keep me calm or something I don't know and I haven't been taking care of myself either so it's like a lot for me

it’s great that you get to have 1-2 nights all to yourself but most of us moms on this thread don’t . Also about doing your own self maintenance great but again most probably don’t know how and/ or don’t have time to learn being busy ALL the time . Your response irks it feels a little “ look at me, look at me .” Sorry if that’s not what you intended.

most mamas have partners, no? I demand my time. I don’t ask for it, I say I’m going out on Friday night I need him to look after baby from 6-11. I’m talking to the mamas with partners, that can take the baby a couple hrs. And I watch tutorials and learn everything myself, I’m giving OP tips on how NOT to get burnt out. She asked “what happened and how are you managing?” That’s how I’m managing. If you can’t take my advice, then scroll past and it’s not for you. My advice doesn’t pertain to everyone on this thread. I was trying to help OP out w not getting overwhelmed or burnt out. Coz she was asking

Only reason I commented on your response was because it was right under my response . I’m lucky to have a partner and no me like most moms I know are simply “Not able to demand my time.” Again time is the factor for trying to learn “ tutorials “ we are busy moms 😆

did you find response useful , does her life style sound like it’s something you can see yourself doing.

and I’m not BUSY?! I utilise nights to watch tutorials lol. Tell me you don’t have 5mins here and there to yourself? All you gave Pippa was solidarity “I’m in the same boat” when she was looking for advice to help. I don’t care if Pippa doesn’t take my advice lol, I don’t care if anyone doesn’t take my advice. That’s what I do, and that’s what works for me. If you can take it, take it. If not, DON’T. That’s what advice is, no? I make a post, people comment, I don’t have to take on every single comment. You sound bitter, girl.

@marlin not really:) I’m a single mother with no family around. I actually left my 60 hour a week job because I was only getting 4-5 hours sleep a night, seeing my 2 year old child 1-2 hours a day and had terrible mum guilt. And then I had terrible work guilt because I was always the first to leave the office and didn’t want to do work trips etc and then I didn’t socialise in the weekends because 1) I was guilty for not spending time with my child and 2) babysitting can get really expensive! So anyway that’s my experience.

Yes this sounds a lot more relatable, sorry your going through g through such a rough time being single parent is a complete different challenge.

Whoops seems like @Kellie didn’t like what I had to say , she blocked me . Such a douchie response to give you talking about going out , having a partner none of that related to your question .You didn’t even have time to spend with your baby 🤦🏻‍♀️ Babysitting is terrible right now whatever happened to the teenagers that baby sit as a little hustle

thanks for sharing this - so cool to know you were working whilst children were running around. Awesome to hear you used meditation. How did you first try it? - do you use anything specific or apps for your practice?

@ruthanne - thanks for sharing. It’s tough isn’t it. My son is coming up to 4 and it does get a bit easier so you have that to look forward to:) I know it’s hard but everyone tells me to do something little for yourself one a day (for me it’s buying a coffee) and once a week (I do a yoga class) just something or anything to feel like your caring for you and giving you some pleasure. Everyone suggests meditation to help stop the whirring mind? Have you tried?