Childhood trauma

Anyone else petrified they are going to relay and ‘pass on’ their own childhood trauma and mental health worries to their children?

It’s one of my biggest fears.

I want my little one to be happy and not look back on his childhood and remember his mum for crying and getting upset.

It doesn’t help my little one is just not happy at the moment, so now I’m petrified it’s because he has picked up on my emotions and feelings.

I just don’t know how to stop overthinking everything and stressing. I feel like I’m the only one sometimes 😭😭😭

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I'm the same! Every little thing I'm thinking about how it'll impact him. And I know I'm always going to think about it, even when he's all grown up - looking back on whether I could have done anything better

I think it's quite natural though. You're definitely not alone 🩷

Yes! And not being able to be “good enough” for her not to have mental health issues 🙈

I think the fact that you’ve recognised this as a worry already shows that you are doing what you can to not impact them. It’s normal to have emotions, especially now! Tiredness, hormones going crazy. It’s teaching how to handle them emotions and get them out safely which I personally think is important. I am often worrying about the same thing so know it’s easier said than done, but give yourself some slack, try to refocus in the moment and recollect a positive moment you have had with baby that day. I’m sure you’re doing amazing. X

Yes! I have a 16 year old and unfortunately her Dad isn’t great and she has been through a lot with him but when she is with me (80%) I just make sure it’s a safe space for her to talk to me about anything and we are really close. For my baby my partner and I are in a very good relationship and he’s a really good dad so she is well supported both sides. I think as long as you are aware of what you went through you won’t put it on your baby. Be proud of yourself that you recognise what you went through was bad and that you are breaking the cycle 💕

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