Rant/ vent

I feel like I’m going crazy so I just need to rant and I feel like I have no one I can tell this to without upsetting them. I just had a baby two months ago with my boyfriend and it was unplanned. I love our baby to death and am excited and glad to be a momma cause I’ve wanted to be but I wish it were in different circumstances for sure.
Back story, my boyfriend and I were both living at our parents when I found out I was pregnant, I had just moved back in with my parents actually to save $ for the future. I had also just lost my job a month before I got pregnant, so unfortunate timing. He lives with his parents cause his dad has health issues so he assists in care taking.

Well since we both lived with our parents I thought we should/ would get our own place cause we’re having a baby but financially I wasn’t making any $ and he “is saving to build” and also has to help with his dad so never really gave me any option but to live here with the baby and I kind of have no choice or leg to stand on myself… so I moved in with his parents.
Flash forward 10 months, we live in his parents basement with our baby. I hate it. I can’t afford my own groceries cause I haven’t worked in 3 months cause I had to quit my last job cause of severe preeclampsia and they didn’t offer maternity leave and now I’ve been struggling with postpartum blues and anxiety. I just HATE the feeling like I’m raising my child somewhere that is not my home or my life. I feel like I have just been putting on a brave face but it’s killing me and my man doesn’t understand, cause everytime I talk about it he just says it’s temporary but doesn’t do anything to make me feel more comfortable here. His parents are fine, they’re super sweet and haven’t expressed any annoyance but it’s like I feel bad if the baby cries at night cause they’re sleeping, I feel bad eating their food cause I’m broke, I feel bad being in their space cause I’m not comfortable, my eating habits have been so bad it’s effecting my breast milk simply cause I don’t feel comfortable going in the cupboard and making breakfast.

I just want to do more and be able to provide my daughter a good life but I feel so incredibly stuck right now. I just started therapy and made an appointment to possibly start meds for my anxiety which I hope helps cause I feel so helpless and anxious about this whole situation.

in our community

Has anyone else had issues with their friends that aren't pregnant or have kids?

I have a friend at work and we've become really close over the years. But ever since I become pregnant she just doesn't understand anything I'm going through which is fine except for the fact that the past few days I have been exhausted physically and socially. We have been helping another friend out for about a month now and we've had to keep him entertained as he's going through a rough time right now and it's drained me socially . my friend at work is frustrated because I'm not talking a lot and I'm exhausted and she doesn't understand why and I'm just curious if anybody else has had issues with friends that are not going to the same thing or have gone through the same thing as you connecting with you because she's literally mad at me. She stopped talking to me at work today and I just don't understand what to do.

Spicy chat

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I’ve been on this app for almost 5 years now I still can’t find one friend. I just need a friend. I’m so fucking lonely.

STD rates and body count

Saw an interesting video and I’d love to hear everyone’s thoughts on this topic!

So std rates are at an all time high as we all know. Do you think the mindset that body count doesn’t matter has contributed to the significant increase of STDs and HIV?

Secondly if someone says that body count doesn’t matter do you believe they are less likely to practice safe sex compared to people who believe in more traditional values?

I can’t put all the combinations in the poll so feel free to comment just yes/no answers

(If you’re going to reply please keep your responses respectful and polite.)

31 weeks pregnant and lonely

How to deal with loneliness in pregnancy when your boyfriend goes out with his friends drinking 😅🥲 I only have three friends, two are never really free and one lives back in Liverpool and has her own set of friends where she goes to raves and goes on holiday with them lol. My boyfriend is going out soon for the night as it’s sunny and I’ll just be sat here crying like every single time! When does it stop 🤣

What happened to Zainab

Hey guys haven’t been on here in a sec! Just come to realise I haven’t seen any posts / comments from Zainab (I’m sure that’s her name 🫠) hoping she is ok , I’m sure she was a Mod but can’t seem to find her anymore 🤔