Help!! Blood curdling screaming/crying and nothing is wrong šŸ˜‘

Hello mamma’s so my LO is almost 3 months old and randomly out of nowhere he has started this blood curdling crying and screaming and I can’t figure out why he’s been doing it I go through my checklist ya know change his bum feed him change his bum again maybe feed him again if he’s still wanting more I burp him cuddle him rock him, give him a pacifier, tried soft lullabies, white noise, background sound from the tv, even running water from the kitchen tap, reading stories, and even just letting him cry it out and nothing is seeming to calm him down and it’s gotten to the point where it’s broken me and I’ve had the deep urge/feeling to want to smack him and I won’t/ don’t cause I know it’s wrong so I end up breaking down in a corner and crying cause idk why else to do my first born wasn’t like this at all and idk how to cope and my SO doesn’t help out at all he literally just goes to work and comes home and goes to sleep, I don’t have family where I live nor do I have any friends as I’m still new to the community I moved too 😭 I could really use some advice I don’t wanna be a bad mom.

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Not a long term solution really but any time I've had trouble settling my baby I go to the back door and as soon as the cold air hits him he calms down instantly. I'm convinced they can feel your stress and that agitates them more.

We've all been there. You've got this. ā¤ļø

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I shall try that trick and thank you ā¤ļø

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Hope ur OK. I was similar with my 2... firstborn I thought was difficult enough at times and then the 2nd born arrived and he screamed and squealed LOADS at the start and would never seem to settle. I couldn't take him anywhere and felt like a crap mum.
Just know that ur not a crap mum. Ur doing the best u can despite all the stresses and worries that come along with being a mum of 2. Take a deep breath. You've got this, and good on u for reaching out when needed.
All of babies needs have been met. He might be cranky from being over tired, could be teething or could be having a growth spurt. When I was at a loss, I would take baby for a walk (even just around the house), or if I wasn't too strung out a short drive in the car sometimes worked if I felt safe enough to do so. Singing baby a song whilst rocking (even over the top of their cries) sometimes helped too as it made baby a bit more calm.
Hope some of these pointers help xx

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Thank you I needed that and I shall try these pointers šŸ‘šŸ»šŸ™šŸ»

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Have you checked fingers toes and in his diaper for any hair wrapped around anywhere that could make him fussy. Maybe try some bicycles and see if he has any farts because I know my baby had a lot of gas and would get like that but would not settle until he got it out

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Mines 3 months too and sometimes we give gripe water and he calms down.

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yes I do check his fingers and toes and clean them regularly of the hair, I have noticed he does get overly fussy and cranky when he has gas and he seems to be gassy a lot idk if it’s cause of the type of formula he eats šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø but I do try to help him get the gas out, and thank you. ā˜ŗļø

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It could be gas. Do you have gripe water or mylicon?
I know it seems so simple, but mine never really cries, except for gas. There are some exercises you can do to help them release it (like bicycle legs, leg circles, etc), and the Frida Wendi is pretty solid too

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Try outside or even a different room. Change of environment can help. Is the crying at a certain time every day? How long does it last? Of your instincts say something is wrong then I would see a doctor. My first used to having crying spells as a newborn. I would sit in the glider and just rock and back forth and hum a song. I would kind of zone out and just rock forever. She would always fall asleep eventually.

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Crying is normal and so are your feelings. When my partner and I felt this way, we would put them down somewhere safe and take ourselves off for a few minutes to take a breath. They're OK, you're OK. Maybe do a senses exercise (name one thing you can see, taste, smell, touch, hear ect) then go back in and try again.

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My baby screams bloody murder when she is bored maybe try tummy time ? Or a nice warm bath. My baby is very high energy now and I was so overwhelmed when she went from a calm newborn to a 3 month old who needs so much more stimulation.

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Is it every night? My daughter would wake up with a blood curdling scream crying at 5 month a couple times a week and nothing was wrong to the eye, but I finally notice the 2nd time it happened her 1st tooth was breaking through her gums!

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Your baby might be colic. One of my baby brothers was and it was really rough. Try visiting colic forums online and see what other parents suggest and also mention this to baby’s pediatrician.

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Have you checked to make sure nothing is wrapped round fingers / toes like a little hair?

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Witching hour

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Maybe teething/overtired . My son is turning 3 mos in a week and he’s been sucking the crap out of his hands and has been more fussy this last week. Then when it’s time for bed he’s fighting his sleep and crying his butt off until he just falls asleep

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