Stopping breastfeeding

My girl is 14 months old, and ever since she was born, she falls asleep with a boobie. She occasionally will sleep in the pram but only when she's really tired and we're on a walk. For the last few days this is getting too much... she bites me to the point that I am screaming with pain and my nipples are so sore that I feel them hurting all the time. I tried using shields but as soon as she saw them on, she freaked out and started screaming. She is not willing to drink from a bottle or a cup no matter what is in it... cow's milk, toddler's milk, water, juice and even breast milk. I have no idea how to get her off the breast and how to get her to use bottle or a cup. She's never liked water, always spat it out or threw the cup on the floor😫

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@Andrea She is with me all the time. She doesn't go to nursery as only my partner works and I stay home. To be honest, I don't even have anyone to stay with her if he's not around... it's just so tiring lately. Even in the night she will only settle with boob and if she doesn't get it, she won't go back to sleep. Her biting doesn't make it any easier either. She might be teething so I've given her calpol but biting didn't stop

I am in a similar situation! My little girl sleeps fine at nursery, will go all day without boob if I’m not around but if I’m here she will have screaming fits if I say no to boob!
If you’re on instagram the breastfeeding mentor is a brilliant account to follow for tips about weaning ❤️

I literally feel like I could have written this. I really want to start weaning but it’s feeling impossible atm, plus little one still wakes up about 4-5 times in the night and it’s the only way to get her back to sleep easily, following for advice ! X

Also trying to wean as I’m getting reoccurring meningitis now. I’ve been really strict allowing her only to feed when she wakes up in the morning, after her nap and for bed and I’m surprised how quickly she adapted, couple of days of fussing and she’s accepting no now (most of the time!) she is also drinking water & the oat follow on milk from a cup (it’s really sweet which helps)
Haven’t figured out the nights yet but I’m putting a dressing gown on so she can’t feed more than twice a night, we’ve had several nights with two hours of screaming over this but I’m hoping we’ll get there soon!

@Vickie I am trying the no to the boob during the day technique and instead offering water with few drops of juice. Surprisingly she's taking few sips here and there. That's a start🙂
Is the oat milk just a regular one from the shops or some sort of toddler one?

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Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

Dummy

My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.