So dang emotional

Today, my sister-in-law (and best friend) visited with my niece from out of town and brought an SUV full of baby clothes and other items for me. I’m so incredibly grateful for her to drive 5 hours from out of state with her three and a half year old in tow to bring me things that she knows I’d want.
When going through the clothes, several of the onesies had flamingos on them. Flamingos were a favorite thing of my grandmother. My grandmother and I were incredibly close (I was her first grandchild), and she passed away a year and a half ago.
After seeing the first flamingo print, I immediately started crying, saying how sad I am that my grandmother won’t know my baby. I didn’t realize how strongly I was going to react to her memory, but I realize now that I’ve been SO incredibly emotional lately. How are you mamas dealing with these raging hormones?

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Aww what a touching story! Thanks for sharing. I tear up way easier than normal. At a sad movie or even a commercial. Yesterday we had our anatomy scan and I teared up multiple times and just felt so grateful for a healthy baby.

Maybe this would make things worse during those emotional moments but what about making a scrap book of sorts of things that you used to do with your grandmother and memories you have of her to share with your baby when your baby gets old enough to understand?

So sweet

that is a great idea!

awesome! Maybe you could include things y’all used to do together, words/phrases your grandmother was known for, places she would take you, just any special memory. Your memory will be much more fresh now than it will be after baby.

what a beautiful idea. I’m already experiencing Mom Brain, so I should start this project ASAP

same girl same. Baby brain I call it. 😂

This is one area that didn’t really get better for me after my son was born but I know what you mean now that I’m pregnant again. It’s a rational thing to be upset about so I find it’s best to ride the emotion. I take my son places that remind me of my mom even if it makes me cry, and look forward to doing that with this baby as well.

@Katelynn I love that. It's good for kids to see their patents have emotions. It helps normalize that its okay for them to be sad about things, too.

I think anytime we have to think about the people who won't get to be a part of this babies life, it is sad. Both of my mom's parents passed before I was born, and to this day, she gets a little sad about them not knowing me and my sister.

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Wdy think of this for a toddler to learn word construction?

I'm open to anything else to start teaching him to read and write. He's 3!

Do men really enjoy fellatio?

Been together more than 10 years, but it's been a while since he even seemed remotely interested in me getting on my knees, or vice versa so to speak. I think it was once last year. Must be something I am doing wrong 🤔. Generally everything else in that department is great and we have two young kids with no extra support, so it's quite surprising we can't keep our hands off each other but may need to try new things. It's basically 2 positions each time with some foreplay.

I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

Naps

How is everyone doing for naps?

Little one is 9 months old and will have 2 half hour naps and one solid 1 hour - 2 hour nap a day

Then settles for night around 9pm. Wakes for a feed around 3:30 then sleeps until 6-7

Vanilla extract

Has anyone used alcohol free vanilla in their babies formal to help them drink?
I’m 100% sure my baby refuses her bottles as she doesn’t like the taste of it!

Just anxious to try it, don’t want her to get used to it and then refuse bottles again after two weeks of using (correct me if I’m wrong but I’ve read you use it for 2 weeks max)

TIA 🙂

Pumping advise

FTM to a 2 week old! I’m breastfeeding and then giving one formula bottle last in the evening before bed. I want to start expressing milk to give me some breathing room and also allow my partner to be more involved in feeding. I’m finding the idea of introducing pumping into my day quite overwhelming though. I don’t want to take milk away from my baby by pumping if he needs it during the day when being breastfeed.

Can anyone advise how I start pumping and when to do it? Thank you!