One tired mama

Please before reading further or commenting do not be negative. Ever since we hit the 4 month sleep regression back in December my daughter will not stay asleep for more than an hour after she’s put down at night in her bassinet. She takes 2 naps everyday in her bassinet with no problem. When she awakens at night after roughly an hour she just screams and will not go back to sleep unless held by me (mom) only. If dad tries to soothe she screams her head off. The only way she will stay asleep after she awakens is if I am holding her or we bed share (we have a safe set up) but it’s taking a toll on me physically from having to sleep so stiff and mentally from hardly sleeping. And for the rest of the night she wakes every 2 hours crying and needs soothed back to sleep. To me it seems like she has night terrors. We have tried everything at this point that “could be wrong”. I refuse to let her cry it out. Sleep training terrifies me because I don’t want to abandon her and ignore her needs. She makes it known she needs me but mama needs sleep to stay sane. Can anyone relate? Does anyone have any suggestions? I’m struggling so hard here.

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No suggestions. My first baby isn’t here yet. But can feel the exhaustion in this and sending hugs!

My daughter did that some when she was smaller. She wouldn’t let anyone soothe her except for me so my husband would grab one of the shirts that I had worn out of the laundry and put it between himself and her so she could smell me and it helped.

Outside for a hour before Warm bath before bed then after bath baby massage then Tylenol and a nice rice bottle !! My kids doctor said if a baby isn’t sleep through the night it’s most likely has pain,leg pain , growing pain, let me tell you after a week regular sleeps every night ! Try it mama it saved me!

I went through the same with my son until he was about 14 months, it was just teething and wanting to be with mama. He’s always been a horrible sleeper and even now wakes up or talks in his sleep pretty often. I was running on 3-5 hours of sleep for so long, idk how I functioned. My advice would be to sleep train at some point if you’re up for that. I didn’t sleep train but am pregnant again and know I cannot handle being up all night for another year and then watching two babies all day, so we’ll be sleep training if new baby is a poor sleeper too

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In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

Dummy

My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.