Sleep

I’m at my wits end with my little girls sleep at the moment, 14 months at the end of this month. Majority of nights she’s a dream sleeps 8-8. But recently there has been some awful nights, she’ll wake up in the middle of the night (some nights been 1am, others 4am) crying her eyes out, has some bottle and will go back to sleep on us (over our shoulder) no problem, we wait 10 sometimes 15/20 mins after she’s fallen asleep and then go to put her back in her cot and the minute her head touches the pillow her eyes ping open and she screams!!!

I then leave the room and give her a minute and she just screams and screams. We go back up, give more cuddle, she’s back to sleep in 2 mins and then same again screams when I put her down. This continues for 3hrs or so! Last night I gave up and bought her into our bed (we only ever bought her into our bed when she was 3-4 months old when my partner had gone to work at 6:30-7am and she woke for a cuddle)

I don’t really know what to do, the sleep deprivation is getting to me and my partner.

I don’t know if she’s maybe becoming scared of the dark? If that can be a thing so young?

Any advice welcome, from one tired mum😴😭

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Best advice is try getting her to fall asleep on her own. I had this exact problem and then I stopped cuddling her to sleep, I’d wait until she was really drowsy and then I’d put her in the cot and put white noise on. Worked a treat. If you’re their comfort at sleep time every wake, they will NEED you. It’s not a bad thing, these nights dot. Last forever, I just held my first born when needed to sleep. But I’ve now got 3. So it isn’t an option, I stay until she’s asleep, but if she wakes she will put her dummy back in and that’s her x

This sounds a bit like separation anxiety, it’s a phase that does pass. My daughter had this pretty badly when I first returned to work at the start of January but she’s back to sleeping through now without me doing anything. For us spending more time with her when I am home and in the evenings after work before bed really helped. I still cuddle/breastfeed her to sleep. I hope it passes for you soon! X

Just following as I could have written this today! He slept amazingly for months and the past 4-5 nights it’s been exactly like you described. He’s also been having less dinner and milk before bed so we’re trying to make sure he’s full. We were leaving the curtains open because they block the radiator (there are blinds) but we decided tonight to close them and see if that helps since it’s been getting light earlier. Decided not to pull him into bed no matter what even though it’s the easiest thing in the short term, probably didn’t help that we did it the first few times!

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In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

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We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

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My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.