Potential Postpartum Depression

Idk if I’m experiencing ppd or if I just get overwhelmed easily. But these last few months have been hard. The majority of my days are okay then all of the sudden I feel super emotional, angry, unsettled, & extremely insecure. I have been seeing a therapist but it doesn’t really feel like it’s been helping. I wish I could just consistently feel at peace OR feel more supported during the times that I do feel more on edge. I feel like all my husband is quick to do during those times is gas light me & it sucks.

I love being a mom & have always wanted this! & i LOOOOOVE my baby. But it’s really hard having moments where I feel like I’m not myself or experiencing the pressure of having all the responsibility of caring for not only yourself, but another human being, & your household. I don’t feel like I have much support from my SO bc he’s so busy with school/2 jobs. Idk. I feel lonely. & guilty.

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Also i go to therapy & it doesn’t really feel like it’s helping.

Ohhh, mama, I feel this. I am the SAME. A month ago I loaded up my baby that was just getting over covid and sat in the Sonic parking lot and cried into a Sonic blast because I was just worn completely thin.

My mama friends/family tell me this is entirely normal and part of finding your footing after becoming a mom. Mom-ing is HARD.

I have found moments during the day when my son is napping to do something for me, even if it's as simple as putting on a sheet mask. And it has helped me feel like "me" again. Because it is super easy to forget who you are outside of "mom" and "wife".

Get your hormones checked. A lot of PPD is caused by progesterone levels not going back to normal when it should and remaining low. I would go to your doctor and get a check on that and see if supplements can help. There’s lots of research on it but unfortunately this isn’t pushed. You also need some alone and personal time. Even if it’s 1hr once a week. Postpartum.net also has support groups that can help

If you want to continue therapy, it is always okay to advocate for yourself and find someone new. Therapy is for you and so you deserve to find someone who is a good fit for you. Postpartum.net also has people that are familiar in your area listed in their directory. I hope you start feeling better soon.

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AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

Dummy

My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.