Stressing.. . Any reassurance?

My little girl starts nursery in a couple of weeks. She will be 9 and half months.. she is EBF and when I've been away from her the only way we can get milk in her is in an open cup/doidy cup. She does drink it quite well but it does spill and milk is wasted. I keep trying her with a sippy cup but all she does is hold it and bring isnup to her mouth but she won't suck it enough to drink it so I end up using an open cup at meal times with water in. I am really worried when shenstarts nursery she is not gonna get enough milk as it not easy to feed her with open cup..
Has anyone had to do this and experience with nursery - does it all work out OK? I just need to get her to 12 months so she can have cows milk at nursery. At the moment I think she will need 1 to 2 feeds whilst she is at nursery.

I am so worried..

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Just a thought, have you tried a cup/bottle in the bath? Make it fun?
I showed my LG how to do it, so I was always drinking from a bottle with a straw. She then kept wanting to use my bottle. Then it worked.

We use the tommee tippee basic cups with a flip out straw. £2 in savers.

You could always ask the nursery. They may have supported families before in the same situation.

A friend had the same issue with giving her son a bottle when he was born. They tried again when he was 7 months and it worked but only if someone else is giving him the bottle while she is noy in the room. Maybe ask your partner or someone else to try this?

Try a 360 cup if she is used to open cups. My little boy has taken to this really well and it only took 2-3 days of practice

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@Rosie thankyou, I think I'll try a straw one as only type I haven't tried yet.
@Hayley we've been trying with 360 cup since started weaning. She puts it to her mouth but she just let's it sit there and doesn't do the right lip action to get any out. It's like she doesn't understand its for drinking. We keep showing her/helping her but she just doesn't seem to be picking it up at all. We've tried tommee tippee sippee type cup and nuby ones to just incase she got on with those a bit better but they're all the same issue so far. I just keep trying. I never had this issue with my first daughter. I just remember her taking to the 360 style ones straight away and I sent her milk with those. She never had a bottle qhen she was a baby and went straight to drinking milk from a cup

How long will you and baby be apart? I'm 99% sure that at that age she should be okay with food and water in the day providing she can feed as much as she likes when you are together (this is what I've seen on a breastfeeding page ran by professionals so I'm inclined to believe it BUT someone else might know different?) X

@Georgia so she will be away from me from about 8 til 6. I'd give her a morning feed and bedtime feed by time she is home.

I'd send her with milk in the hopes that she takes it but wouldn't worry too much if she doesn't actually drink it whilst there, you might find she has an extra feed or two in the times you are together instead x

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