Velcro Baby

My baby boy is 8 months and I think I’m coming to terms with the fact that I’ve done a good bit of conditioning him into a velcro baby. He’s started whining and having mini fits when he doesn’t get his way (ie., being held 24/7) and he even refuses to nap unless we’re making contact. I’ve been rejecting the old school “cry it out” method because I want him to know I’ll be there to fulfill his emotional needs but I’m exhausted and not able to do much of anything else. We’re together all day and he still wants to be up under me all night. 😓😩 I hate to say I’ve created a monster but his clinginess is definitely becoming a lot to manage.

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I'm in the same situation 😩 it's not easy!! I kept praying that the days become shorter.

I going through the same thing, I carry him all day & bub will only fall asleep on me. He wakes up as soon as we're not touching. All I can say is that this is nothing that you have done. I have read so much about velcro babies & some mothers have said that they had one baby that was easy & and independent, then the next a velcro baby. They did nothing different, it was just that babies personality. Don't listen to people who tell you that you have spoiled him & you shouldn't pick him up, just let him cry. Your baby just needs more comforting than other babies. Most stories I have read say they grow out of this on their own & become normal idependant toddlers. I'm just waiting & praying that it's not too far away. Although they do say you'll miss all the cuddles when they're grown, so try enjoy it.

you make a great point! I try to remember that there will be a time when he gets older and may not need/want the same amount of cuddles. Makes it easier to cherish these moments when they rely on you for comfort.

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